how to get a girlfriend?

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how do you get a girlfriend? I know theres a lot of threads about guys saying they can't get a girlfriend.

But what advice would you give to people on how to get a girlfriend?

have a girl ask you out.

Small talk everyone.
Even guys, even bums.
Women can overhear you and may join in or initiate or be open to you initiating if they hear you talking/acting in a way that is appealing to them.

Most women are 'happy' with their current relationship (meaning not looking).
When a woman is ready for a new man, you've got about a two week window to be her new man. And remember, today might be day 12.
In my experience many women at this relationship stage will take just about any man that presents himself, but will choose from what she thinks is the best of those who do present themselves.

Once she has slept with a new man she's instantly off the market even if she was flirting hardcore and/or begging for sex with you yesterday.
If you didn't tap it, it's too late.
Women will put up with just about any man, even an A-hole that tricked her into a relationship, for about three months.
So even if you're an axe murderer, if you're at the right place at the right time you could land yourself a babe and she'll be awesome to you for two-three months until she learns enough about you.

Most women are 'happy' in their relationship and if she is, you will get rejection no matter how cool, rich, nice, A-holey or any other thing you may be.
If you cannot tell if a woman is unavailable then you must not take it personally when she rejects you, she hasn't even judged you because that's a waste of her time.
You're not faulty, you're just off her radar.

"Getting" a girlfriend is misleading semantically. Relationships are all about people, so meeting people is the goal. That's how to establish common ground, and that's how dating starts. If you think in terms of out-competing other guys for the rights to the girl, you are doing it wrong. Life is not a sports bar. I'd say the first step is to get a job, because you learn a lot of things at work that help, such as peer relationships, power dynamics, and group politics, not to mention casual social interaction.

Learn a bunch of jokes, you can break the ice with those. Tell her you want to see if her laugh is as pretty as she is.
Tell her it is, even if she sounds like a donkey.

If you want to know how to tell if a woman is 'available' PM me.
It's simple but I'm not going to open myself up to slander from the bitter no-GF children that sometimes post wimmin-hate on here.
And some of those wont get an answer from me cuz they're too annoying, lol.
It took me too long to figure out and it's a man-seekert.

Telling jokes has been one of the least successful ways to make women laugh or stay interested in conversation in my experience. I'm not sure about other peoples experiences here but direct humor like that is not everybody's medicine. Especially people with aspergers. That's not a good strategy to "break the ice". Just my .02 about pre planned jokes. Jokes work with the right people but people on the spectrum usually don't fit that mold.

Codyrules, there is no one way to break the ice. It all depends on where & how you are trying to meet a woman.

Go to YouTube & subscribe to " Playersupremeshow ". He's the best dating self improvement guide I've found and the guys words are real. He doesn't preach PUA b.s. And all of what he sais is legit if you pay attention and use it in real life.

"Player supreme " even specializes in quiet guys like many of us are on the spectrum.

You have to start with buying expensive things and leaving them on your door step, then wait till night fall and watch as the girls come and take them. Be sure to choose one you like and the one who seems satisfied with cheaper things, then you buy those things and when she comes back you then serenade her with romance songs and throw romantic comedy dvds or romance novels at her to gain her trust, then lead her into your room with a large pizza once she is there try to communicate with her using pictures and signs, then leave her to adjust to her new surroundings, show no fear, for they can smell it on you and she will run, leave your window open so she doesn't feel trapped, if she is in your bed when you wake up you have a girlfriend, if she is not you must begin baiting them again.

It depends on the girl, women are dynamic and different, there is no one way answer. My girlfriend liked my deep thoughtful mind and my imagination and innovation, I also liked her imagination so humour doesn't always have to be the key factor.

Don't try to duplicate a successful personality, go out and find your own, find who you are and what you really want first. "Tapping" a woman or following YouTube videos with the word "player" in them probably isn't the best start as you are already trying to deceive someone for your own gain.

Build relationships on good and honest intentions, focus on your social skills, learn what is socially appropriate and what isnt, you might face rejection at first but keep at it and you will grow.

You haven't watched the videos. Don't be so quick to judge player supreme.

Yep. That's how I got my last 7 ex-wives
Just kidding.

Cody, you just have to get out there and talk to women. It sucks, but its the only way. I'm not saying hit on or ask out every one that you see, but you have to at least engage in conversation. All of my relationships happened when I wasn't really looking. We met, we talked, we hung out, then we dated. Have confidence, but don't go into it thinking, "ok, this ones gonna be my girlfriend" Lol. Hell, maybe you'll just make a new friend. And maybe she has a friend that you could meet.

I don't know where you go or what you do, bars, clubs, comic shops, concerts, flea markets, conventions. But there are women everywhere. It all starts with a casual comment from you. And you can usually tell within 2 seconds if she's not interested. Avoid cheesy pickup lines. Ask her a question about something that she is obviously interested in. Of course it helps if you are interested in the same thing. Don't get discouraged if the first 1 or 10 or 20 blow you off right away. They may already have boyfriends, or are not looking, or are just not interested.

Above all, just be yourself. Do go for all of the trickery and deceit B.S. Yes, it may help you get a GF. But how long are you willing to pretend to be someone else just to keep her?

If I had magic girlfriend dust that you could just sprinkle on women, I would give you some. But I don't, and this is the best advice I can give.

You seem to have a great sense of humor, that could be a good advantage.
Good Luck

Edit: I just realized you are 18. Stay out of the bars young man

I 3 girlfriends I had I met on forums. The 2nd & 3rd(& we're living together now) I met on this site. i posted aLOT about various things & I also explained some of my good points; like the way i am within a relationship. I wasn't even looking for my 1st girlfriend but we connected well & were good online friends & she told me she liked me. I never had any good luck trying to get a girl offline thou. I think I can explain myself better by posting alot than the way I come off when I'm offline with people I'm not that close to.

I met most of my girlfriends via the phone, I just got my number passed around by friends and then I would talk to people on the phone and then my social screw ups were minimal.

FIFY

1. Be attractive
2. Be handsome
3. Don't be ugly

Follow these rules and I can guarantee you that love will be a no-problemo for you. Otherwise, tough luck bro.