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20 Mar 2015, 5:35 am

I'm starting to wonder about smiling and other displays of affection (from girls as I'm a guy). From my experience, smiling might be a decent marker that a girl is interested, but I feel that shy and / or neurodiverse girls will seldom do this. Smiling seems to be a social behavior that many neurodiverse people learn rather than do naturally. It seems to be more common that if you meet a (neurotypical) friend of a girl that is interested in you, she might give you a brief smile as she sees you.

I've observed another possible marker of interest that might be a more natural reaction from a shy / neurodiverse girl. It's similar to winking, but only involves the hand, and not the arm as is typical in the neurotypical variant. This is a really subtle cue, but I seem to trigger on it subconsciously. Have anybody else observed this, or maybe even some girl that knows she does this?



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20 Mar 2015, 8:27 am

I often wink at girls whom I find attractive.



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20 Mar 2015, 2:03 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I often wink at girls whom I find attractive.


Which of the types? Whole arm or just your hand?



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20 Mar 2015, 2:13 pm

rdos wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
I often wink at girls whom I find attractive.


Which of the types? Whole arm or just your hand?


:?

Winking involves closing and opening one eye, does it not? How do hands and arms get involved?



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20 Mar 2015, 2:33 pm

Marcia wrote:
rdos wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
I often wink at girls whom I find attractive.


Which of the types? Whole arm or just your hand?


:?

Winking involves closing and opening one eye, does it not? How do hands and arms get involved?


Perhaps the OP meant "w*king."


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20 Mar 2015, 3:26 pm

The correct word probably is waving, although this is typically associated with the neurotypical version using the whole arm. There is no term for the neurodiverse version that I know of.



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20 Mar 2015, 3:32 pm

I "wave" somewhat awkwardly.

I "wink" less awkwardly :wink:



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20 Mar 2015, 6:48 pm

Are you talking about this kind of wave?

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20 Mar 2015, 8:07 pm

I smile all the time out of habit at everyone. Its a habit for me and its something that I do when I say hello to everyone ,even strangers. I don't wink though



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20 Mar 2015, 8:49 pm

Nothing wrong with smiling.....



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20 Mar 2015, 9:22 pm

rdos wrote:
I'm starting to wonder about smiling and other displays of affection (from girls as I'm a guy). From my experience, smiling might be a decent marker that a girl is interested, but I feel that shy and / or neurodiverse girls will seldom do this. Smiling seems to be a social behavior that many neurodiverse people learn rather than do naturally. It seems to be more common that if you meet a (neurotypical) friend of a girl that is interested in you, she might give you a brief smile as she sees you.

I've observed another possible marker of interest that might be a more natural reaction from a shy / neurodiverse girl. It's similar to winking, but only involves the hand, and not the arm as is typical in the neurotypical variant. This is a really subtle cue, but I seem to trigger on it subconsciously. Have anybody else observed this, or maybe even some girl that knows she does this?


I think smiling and prolonged eye contact are indicators of interest. Also, when a girl glances at you, looks away, and looks back thats also a sign of interest.

Not sure what you're talking about though with the hand thing....



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21 Mar 2015, 4:10 am

yellowtamarin wrote:
Are you talking about this kind of wave?

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No, that's a finger wave. It's somewhere in between. Doesn't use the arm, but it is not fingers only either.



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21 Mar 2015, 4:13 am

Barnes66 wrote:
I smile all the time out of habit at everyone. Its a habit for me and its something that I do when I say hello to everyone ,even strangers. I don't wink though


Yes, which means that your smiles are not a secure sign of interest, and neurotypical guys might even misinterpret it as you are flirting with them even if you don't. I don't think you are alone here.



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21 Mar 2015, 4:17 am

Subjekt_9 wrote:
I think smiling and prolonged eye contact are indicators of interest. Also, when a girl glances at you, looks away, and looks back thats also a sign of interest.


Agreed.

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Not sure what you're talking about though with the hand thing....


It was just something I've observed multiple times from one particular girl that I've also observed other stims from. Either it isn't very common, or people that do it are largely unaware that they do it.