"Mrs. Right" doesn't exist.

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You want to know what "Mrs. Right" is? It's some STD-ridden, knife-weilding hooker that castrates you mid-screw. I'm sick and tired of people encouraging me to be the ultimate scumbag in pursuit of love, and I can't stand the whole "fish in the sea" bullcrap. No single girl in my life has ever treated me with anything other than viciousness. Fine. I can be vicious too. It's the rules of the game, right?

Your question should be "You want to know who Mrs. Right is?" Mrs. Right is a person and not thing.




What goes around comes around. I think you ought to work on nurturing positive emotion.

If the girls all fit a close pattern of traits & behavior, you have to look at yourself first.

As for you, this is much like women who only seek abusers. I'm not saying the people you're dating don't have problems, it sounds like they do, but know that there is a reason _you_ are seeking that pattern. Identify why, fix what is almost certain to be a psychological issues, and things will head towards normal (I.e., you making your S.O. pull their hair out in frustration.)

And don't forget to address what RealityIs pointed out. They're people, make sure you are treating them as such.

We attract people who exert similar emotional energy to that of ourselves. Negative energy will attract negative people, positive energy will attract positive people. I truly believe this to be the case. If you are angry, and full of hate/resentment/rage, then others who are also experiencing those emotions will be drawn to you as people are drawn to those they feel they can relate to, and the types of people who experience those emotions are also the people most likely to hurt you.

I know what it's like to feel such emotions, both in response to real world situations and artificially due to mood disorder, and I am sorry you have to go through the experience of having them. The only way for your life to get better is to be able to cleanse yourself of them and let your resentment go. You must forgive those who have hurt you in the past in order to heal yourself, irrespective of whether they deserve forgiveness or not. It could be the hardest thing you ever have to do, but it will change your life for the better.

I know what it's like to be abused and treated viciously by girls (as well as boys). The things girls did to me since I was a little kid to about the age you are now were infinitely more painful that boy bullies though because girls tend to attack emotionally and psychologically rather than physically, and thus hit you where it really hurts.

I was angry and bitter for a while but I realized that by feeling those emotions and letting them cloud my perception I was effectively letting those who had hurt me dictate my future, rather than taking control of my own future and leaving the past in the past, where it belongs.

Sometimes I wonder what's wrong with me. My fantasies are nothing compared to this.

You could take the 'easy way out' - concentrate on the things outside of yourself, all the poison and the damage, and blame everyone and everything. (I thought that was just the NT way, but thank you WP for giving me an education on this).

Or...