Why is it so hard to express feelings? To say "I love y

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Is it because we don't know how to, or because we cannot feel or decipher those feelings/emotions?

I have little problem expressing my emotions. finding somebody who welcomes such, now that is a horse of a different color.

It's easy to say, "I love you"; meaning it is a whole 'nuther level of difficulty.

I noticed that I have trouble with this too, because to me it sounds so heavy and almost conveys dependence or desparation. Which is completely ridiculous, I know.

My partner has Aspergers and has difficulty in saying "I Love you" but, on the very odd occasion when she does, it feels absolutely brilliant.
Sometimes, when it is said less often, it has more meaning.

well most women don't have trouble expressing their emotions. In fact they express their emotions too much.


Guys on the other hand are the opposite. Many of them have trouble expressing their emotions ; especially if you're an aspie guy.

My problem is that I say it too much. My parents always let me know that. They feel like my I love yous have no meaning now because I say it so much. Now with people besides my family, I have difficulty saying I love you. Love takes me trusting that person and I have a really hard time trusting other people besides my family.

ur a girl thats why


iv'e never heard of a guy who expresses his emotions too much.

I have very little trouble telling people I love them, so long as its true. However, it often comes across as too simple from my perspective, because they often seem to shrug it off.

I have extreme difficulty. I can't say it. Never said it face to face to anyone. I also don't know how to decipher if it's love or not. My brain goes into confused mode and it hurts. I have obsessions. Is that love? I just don't know. All I know is that it is horrible when it hurts because the other person doesn't feel the same way.

But I can feel a deep affection. The most I have managed is in writing and even so, it felt strange.

For me, I definitely feel those.. things. But I have trouble deciphering them or showing them properly. I know I feel emotions very deeply, but because being sensitive and letting emotions get the best of me for the majority of my childhood caused nothing but horrible problems I've learned to lock them up and put up a poker face.

If I don't want someone to know how I feel about something, they won't. If I want them to know how I feel but don't want them to know that I know that they know how I feel (haha) I can do that too.

I will admit I enjoy that power of confidentiality over my emotions. I get to choose when I want someone to know how I feel about something and how.

Some may think that is dishonesty. Perhaps. However it's not like the feeling is false, it's true, it's just choosing when I reveal that truth to others.



As for saying "I love you." I am EXTREMELY selective with that phrase. I think I have said those words less than ten times in my life. Twice being to my parents.

My girlfriend and I use the L word a lot. It's disgusting.........

Hello Aspie Sandra, how are you? I remember you sent me an e-mail ages ago and I never responded to it. I'm sorry about that.