Is there a good way to end this?

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Okay so as couple weeks ago a guy I worked with contacted my parents asking if they thought I'd go out with him. I agreed for no other reason than dad's always on my case about never going out and talking to people. Now I've kinda gotten myself stuck.

I will admit he's an okay guy for a friend but he's got no sense of personal space it seems and without warning he put his arm around me and tried to kiss me the second time we hung out together. Which needless to say freaked me out and I think embarrassed him. which in turn made me feel bad the rest of the night.

The biggest problem though is that we have nothing in common. He's religious, I'm not. I like to go places, he'd rather stay in town. Not to mention that I can't seem to start a conversation deeper than small talk and we have no common interests. He's also never been to college and doesn't plan on doing so.

So basically I'm what I'm asking is what do you think would be a good way to break the news that I'm not that interested (Never was really to be honest) and should I do so soon or should I wait for a couple more dates and see what happens?

The sooner the better... be honest with him. If you give him any hope, you'll never hear the end of him. "I'm sorry, I just don't feel any chemistry so we probably shouldn't be romantic" is just fine. You don't have to be unkind, just firm.

If you do not feel anything for him now, you probably never will. Just don't give him any cheesy crap like "no chemistry" or that "you're not ready for a relationship".

I agree with this statement. I would basically tell him exactly what you said here.

Normally I would agree with you Kurgan, but the problem is that those things are actually true. There is both no chemistry and I'm not ready for a relationship. I've always been a loner and like it that way. Being around people all the time stresses me out so I have to have my alone time. This of course is the fact that I can't seem to get though my parents heads when I tell them I don't really need anyone.

i find it asexuality difficult to understand, because what if you just aren't responding to some of men's pheromones? You might be surrounded by the wrong type of guy. Maybe you just need to wait for somebody else.

Best not to lead the poor guy on. At least do it in person.

strongly suggest you get your parents to start dating him instead

Or this. At the very least they need to butt out.

lol, I laughed way harder than I probably should have at that. Anyway I do plan on telling him soon just as soon as I work up the nerve. (social anxiety why you make things so hard?)

Also wrong type of guy is right. I live in the middle of no where and I'm surrounded by people that all seem to have the same interests.

For males.
Trucks/vehicles in general
hunting
fishing
Farming

For females.
gossip
celebrities
gossip
shoes
clothes
Did I mention gossip?

I see all this going on around me and then people wonder why I stay on the computer all the time. At least here I can have an intelligent conversation.

Also sidenote I'm beginning to see where he got the last of personal space thing from. His mom works at the same store as well and during my break I was reading part of a magazine and she pulled her chair up right up next to me and started to try and start up a conversation about her grandkids. At least her friends did after a few one word answers and told her to go back over to where they were. Thank you random strangers for letting me get back to my article on Blackbeard in peace.