better when girl act not interested

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I would rather have a girl treat me like s**t,ignore me,
insult me than a girl who acts nice,but doesn't
give a s**t about me at all.

it sucks,when you think a girl likes you,
because she's nice,but you find out,she
doesn't even like you,even as a person.

women can love or hate me all they want.
but if a woman hates me,at least show it,
or ignore me,but don't act like a friend.

(Im just upset,I found out,a ''nice'' lady,
I know,doesn't give s**t about me)

Im not mad that she doesn't like me,Im
mad because she pretend to be nice.

I agree. I'm fine with people not liking me, but I don't want them to pretend to be my friend. Ignoring me is fine.

I think in a lot of situations it comes down to cowardice. They're scared of what might happen if they hurt your feelings. What they need to get into perspective is that they're doing a lot more damage to feelings in the long term than the very short lived pang of disappointment that would come of them being honest and saying how they really feel.
(By 'they' I'm referring to people who do what you're describing, not just women and certainly not women in general.)

Most people these days are afraid of "hurting" peoples feelings. If you don't like someone make it obvious don't waste their and your own time. Sadly being open about how you feel towards someone is seen as bad these days.

Also what Kernal said they are afraid of confrontation.

I've encountered a certain type of person who is very adept at acting friendly and jovial all of the time and has no problems being insincere. They do it to get ahead because ultimately these people are undisciplined with few achievements, and they can go further in life just by blowing smoke up everyone's ass and being a yes man or woman.

I try and be nice to everyone even if I don't like people all that much. It's just good manners. I don't think people generally do it with an ulteria motive. But then that's just the way I was brought up.

Personally speaking, I didn't mean "I like it when people are hostile". You can be civil without being friendly.

this wasn't a one time meeting,I knew this ''nice''lady for a few months.
and she was also nice to me,but to find out,she doesn't give a sh-t
about me,pisses me off.She should have done what alot of ladies
I directly or indirectly pissed off,just ignore me,or walk away.

and I would never even guess the ''nice''lady,didn't
give a sh-t about me.I expect that from one of these
cranky 19 year old female,who never got along with me
in the first place,but not from a woman,who
was always nice to me.

She was probably just being civil and polite.

What do you mean by her not giving a s**t about you?

meaning she doesn't even like me,or care
what happens to me(which is fine)

I understand people being civil and polite,
but this wasn't a 1 time meeting,I knew her
for a few months,and she pretend to be nice,
this whole time.at least when other women hate
me,or find me stupid,or annoying,they at least
show it.

reminds me a bit of "the mask of sanity."

Yes indeed. Not being someone's friend doesn't mean you have to be their enemy.

I think you're getting "being friendly" mixed up with "pretending to be your friend".

These people are not trying to deceive you. They are simply showing manners by being pleasant when they address you.

Tip: Learn to test them for true friendship or love..

Or even better read body language cues. Otoh you can also force the issue by inviting the person to an event that this person will only follow through with if they have a sincere interest in you.

I agree with the OP one here said I was an "idiot" now she just ignores me, as they say in publicity bad attention is better than no attention!