Confused.....

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Quote 1 - " I realize that I communicated in a negative way, and Im sorry."

Quote 2 - " and frustrated, and upset, etc."

1 came out of my mouth and 2 came out of my significant other's mouth. I dont understand why it would be thought of to be argumentative for me to restate number 1 instead of agreeing with number 2, when in my mind negative and frustrated mean the same. One happens to be emotional the other not.

Help?

Pointedly saying something other than agreement to a pointed statement will probably usually be thought as disagreeing which is usually though of as arguing.
I dunno why, that's just what happens.

yes, i agree. your significant other seemed to be characterising your negative communication, which seems unnecessary and argumentative itself.

I feel as though your statement is correct. I even went a step further to state that to me saying "negative" vs "frustrated" was essentially the same condition. To top it off, my spouse essentially spewed back that I was being argumentative because saying frustrated was their attempt at trying to connect emotionally to the conversation by saying the word frustrated, and that me saying it as well would have been a clearer sign of an emotional connection, something that I don't really understand why its the case.

I don't understand either. Sorry.