Feeling lonely thread

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This....... is just a thread, for those who feel lonely and single, and want to assure everyone that you are not alone in this world. In other words, this is kinda therapeutic thread for those single (and feeling lonely).
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I am not going to be alone for much longer...... after 15 years, it's time I did something with my old grade school friend (and I don't mean anything sexual, kay?)!

You could not have posted this at a better time. I was just sitting here thinking about how everyone I know is either in a relationship, married, engaged, and some have kids of their own or are pregnant/expecting, and here I am, with absolutely nothing, and I would at least like a relationship. I started bawling just thinking about all of it. I don't understand what's wrong with me. It must be nice to have somebody actually be interested in you and want to date you. I very rarely get that, even though I have had a few guys tell me they think I'm attractive enough. I try not to feel sorry for myself, but I just don't understand what's wrong with me. Why does nobody ever want a relationship with me?

The girl I crushed on in high school (who also liked me quite a lot) has been posting constantly on Facebook about how she can't get anyone decent to go out with, and she's not getting any younger. Everyone else in my school is married with kids (which isn't necessarily a good or intentional series of events). It's like the perfect scenario....

Except I moved 13 hours away to find work. Where I have no family, no connections, and haven't had a conversation with someone who wasn't a bartender or a therapist for over three years. And they're PAID to listen to me.

I'm not dwelling on it or fawning over her Facebook page or any of that other nonsense. I hope we're both happy someday, one way or another.

@Finchel_Geek: Hey, I try my best to help people the best I can.

Oh, yes! It's hard to stay off Facebook, and when I go on, I see lots of people talking about their relationships and so on. I try to console myself with the idea that only the really unhappy people talk about how happy they are, but still, it makes me want to have a boyfriend, a partner, someone to share stuff with that we each find meaningful. Even my middle-aged coworker, who everyone at work dislikes for her weird body odor, burping, farting, and poor fashion sense , has a boyfriend. And then I'm like, why not me? I'm not all that bad. I think, though, that it might be a certain vibe I give off, like I'm not approachable or something.

Also, why the heck do I keep having crushes on men? I got really sad the other day thinking about it, how i've pursued all these guys and men, and how none has ever been remotely interested in me. Is it the idea of a relationship I like, maybe better than the details of actually being in one?

Hope that goes well! It takes a lot to work up the courage to do something, especially since there's always the possibility, in the back of your mind, that disappointment may lie ahead...

Indeed. I will be prepared when that comes up, but you never know for sure.

I feel the same way all the time.

Can I just say...

...you look sexy and nice. Very nice.

Thanks. I wish I could get that kind of recognition in the real world.

For people like me, that is terrifying to say regardless of the fact that I don't want to say it to people because of my own personal reasons. Even if I wanted to I just couldn't bring those words out.

I would love even a "Hey, do you wanna hang out sometime?" I don't even get that.

EquestriatoLA can be helpful, and this thread is proof of that. Cheers.

Yup I am quite the lonely one myself and I'm sure everyone on WP figured that out, I had a heated talk with my mom and she thinks I'm cold and bitter. But I am just stronger. I have a kind warm heart. But some people will take a mile on you if you give them an inch! And I am Autistic so I need to protect myself. I told my mom she'll never understand me as an autistic male. She doesn't know, she thinks she knows, but she never well know.
What makes it worse is that I have my sister and her BF living with me. They frolic around the place and laugh and f**k. Then, since the walls are thinner in the new place, the neighbors are heard too. So I'm just stoic to it all now. All I got is my own thoughts. All my friends got GFs,, married, or have families. All of my family members have relationships--whether they are problematic or not. I overwhelmed myself I believe. My birthday was not too long ago, Just hours before it I deleted all my social sites except this 1 and FB. I just had enough. I know what is wrong with me. I don't go out with a negative Nancy attitude at all. I actually put a mask on. Like I said, people think I am a normal person. They'd never ever know I have ASD unless I mention it. In terms of a dating future. I'll probably be single for a long time. I could've settled actually. But I didn't want to. I'm glad I didn't.

Sometimes I wonder whats it like to have someone who is actually intrested in what You like and what You say , and understands what you've been through.

I try not to think about it to much , but with most of my friends having or already had a girlfriend , I feel left out.

It's like there's all these people in the year who just want girls for the sex , and they get girlfriends , how the hell does this work?

It's stupid and I hate the way popularity works in school.

Starting to think if you screw over not knowing anyone though school it pretty much cripples your social life later in life too. Besides a few people I work with I interact with no one. Life as well has gotten so chaotic with work going into peak season and school starting right after it I don't have the time to run around trying to figure out how to make friends or date. All y life has been was work and taking care of myself I guess I just forgot the social part till it was to late.