Why do so many Aspies want their partners to be 'perfect'?

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cause where beautiful and pure and soooo unique like a snow flake in fact.

no but when I watch Shortland Street I think you may have a point, what a strange lot it makes "Home and Away" look like schindler's list!

why is the grass greener in New Zealand? cause their all over here. I see NZ as a pretend Australia and I dislike fake-ness our Nz is Americas Canada

I believe in the "not perfect, but perfect for me" adage myself. (Great post, Opi!)

I never wanted to date a man who looked like a movie star, who all the other women were drooling over. All I ever wanted was a man whose inner beauty eclipsed whatever external "flaws" he may have.

I fell in love with my late fiance before we'd ever met, before I'd ever seen anything but a very poor quality, poorly-lit photo of him. Turned out he was really photogenic, so he actually looked better in the photo than in person. I actually thought he was kind of funny-looking when we finally met IRL. But after an hour in his company, I stopped noticing the physical oddities. To this day, the only time I really "see" what he looks like is when I see a photo of him. Even then, I always feel like the photo is never a complete picture of him because it doesn't convey the inner person, which was the best part of him.

I think perfectionism and Asperger's has to do with reading social cues and difficulty predicting what someone will say and do next. Perfect people don't change. Isn't that what we want as Aspies? A reliable routine?

^ ye when you are in love or even when you just love someone or even just get to know them really well, you start seeing them in 5D so just superficial appearance is no longer relevant.
however, a lot of men and women only operate on superficial levels, it's a shame for them and those they date, but such is life.



This turned out to be New Zealand man thrashing thread. What a strange coincidence

I always wanted to live in New Zealand but everyone I ever met told me I'd hate it there because it is backward and like living in the 70s. Beautiful Scenery. Bloody Welsh, it wasn't enough that they ruined Wales for the rest of us with their presence, they had to do it to New Zealand too. (NOTE: this is a joke!! ! very very tongue in cheek. some of my best friends are Welsh! etc)

Funny though, I haven't met a kiwi I didn't like but the guys do seem to have this I Tarzan thing going on and very much a bloke mentality. You can imagine how well that goes over with me

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Not at all. In fact, I am often kind of intimidated by too handsome guys.

My perfect guy would be normal to tall height, average looking, average weight, dresses casually, makes me laugh, and is kinda goofy.

Perfect people scare me off.

This is silly.

Perfect is perfectly subjective.

Those of us who seek perfection will surley never find it.

Those of us who find perfection surely never seek it

I thought it was the fault of the Irish even the Simpsons touch base I forget the exact wording though the gist of it was he claimed Ireland is much better these days as all the ret*ds have now emigrated to the usa and are now serving in your police force.

To think the right wanted the rest of Europe to imitate the so called "celtic tiger" more like a starven alley cat these days.

Aside from all the Rob Ford s**t going on in Toronto, Canada is actually... multicultural.... yeah... multicultural.... and more accepting of it.

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that's what I tried to tell a member here Americans need to end that lie it's around 13% or something in Australia, Switzerland etc it's close to double.

"Perfection" doesn't exist. In my opinion, anyway.

Honestly, I'd rather date someone who's around the same standards as me.

Aspies try and make their potential partners perfect because there's something missing from almost every girl an aspie meets.

Because their minds arent right we try and make every other detail about them perfect as a way of compensating.

The truth is, you just need the right kind of person. Aspie girls, ones that aren't hopelessly consumed by their own selfishness as i know a lot of aspie girls are, are your best bet.

Its the mind, its the way they see the world, thats whats important. With the right mind you will look at a girl twice your weight and think beautiful.

This is weird. I can really like someone and think they're "perfect", as in a very good match for me, but I don't deny flaws. If you do, you're not really liking the real, actual person for who they are, are you? Everyone has flaws. Sometimes they even make people more interesting, so long as they're not serious, terrible flaws. There are certain traits that I look for, but as long as the important ones are met, I'm pretty accepting of various quirks or weaknesses, etc. Maybe I'm just desperate, but I don't think so. My standards are still pretty important, just... accepting.