Okcupid women.

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I've noticed something remarkably weird on okcupid: All women I had contact with (and few still in contact with) remain single to this day, and never went to the taken state.

I can't resist to wonder; what's their problem? :-/

Probably the same as yours?

I kind of get the impression you feel that people are obligated to be attracted to you, or to want to be in a relationship with you. That ain't so.

Yes, marry me.

From the generic-ness of OkCupid profile, I have a deep-seated hope that they're all just stock photos with generic profiles, and not real people.

What problem do you mean that would be specific for woman? Why do you think, it is anything else for them but for you? You seem to search on okcupid for a partner, but still are single now. Which I think, will simply depend on you not having found someone that is special to you, and that returns that feeling. So there was no reason until now to engage into an relationship until now. People, anyway if male or female, okcupid or NTs, are single because they either prefer it, or because they are not in love with someone, that has that feeling for them in return. There is no big secret.

It's known for some okcupid women to keep their profile status as "single" while in reality they are not, or at least that's what I've read down here and on other places.

I've come to realise, the type of woman that I need in my life, isn't to be found on a dating site

So, I will have to go search for her in the real world for her, near impossible.

I'm still on OKCupid and single mostly because I don't manage to have conversations with women that often and when I do, they simply decide to stop chatting to me before I get to ask them out for a date. I would of thought though that if women reject people, like men who reject people, they do so because they could afford to reject them and they feel that can find someone better. If there are women on OKCupid who do not want to remain single, strongly wanting to find a partner, and Boo also doesn't want to remain single, then I would of thought that surely at least some of them would of agreed to him. That's why I would find it strange that most of the women he's spoken to on OKCupid have remained single after couple of years because if they rejected you, it's usually because they can find or found someone else that's more to their liking and they wouldn't remain single after so long. Unless their standards are too high, of course.

Plus the gender ratio favors way more the females, so they have far more potential dates- some of them don't even stop dating. So yea, it's weird that all of them still single (yet they're seeking for long term) after all these dates, and they're not aspies you know.

Maybe because they haven't found someone they absolutely "click" with, they are pretending they want to be in a long-term relationship, they are too indecisive and cannot choose just one man to stay with, or some other reason I can't think of. Before I met scuba, I'd gotten onto OkCupid out of boredom. I didn't have any expectations for love; I thought I'd meet some nice people (I originally thought the site was for autistic people -.- I saw it on WP and assumed it was). I'm not sure how most women go on there feeling. Maybe desperate? Maybe bored?

I figure that I'm here and I'm a decent person so there must be other decent people that try this to meet someone special. Don't give up!

This, man.

It's not just these women that feel entitled to more than they should get.
I'm not a fan of the marketing drivel that some of our other members try and sell around here but there will always be people that believe in a value or league system and they're going to place you on it as much as you place them in it. When messaging a girl you have to think "what reasons would they want to respond to me?"

As you've just observed though, there are always going to be people that value themselves higher than most other people would. Positiveness and self esteem are good qualities IMO but as long as realism is applied to them.

Maybe because they seek an relationship partner, and not simply someone "that is more to their liking then someone else?" If I am searching for an television, what use do I have from meeting in the electronic shop an MP3-player, that is more to my liking then another MP3-player?

The standard: "Someone that I am in love with, and that does love me as well." is simply the basic standard for an relationship partner. If you are simply searching for "something that is actually better then the thing I have" your standards are simply those of someone seeking a simple sexpartner, but not a lifepartner. There is nothing weird about it, that for finding the right partner to spend the rest of your life happily, you need some time.

Some people are happy, and they find a good partner in very young years, others do that with 30 or 40, ...

Its not about finding someone, that makes you actually happy right now in that moment, but someone, that makes you as well happy, when thinking upon being with him in 40 years. Its no use if someone is being better then someone else, if the expectation of being with him in 40 years, does not make you happy.

But in a huge electronics mall with a lot of options, you are much more likely to find the TV you're seeking, it would be very weird to not find that TV after visiting several malls (they are on other dating sites too like pof and local dating sites), it would be even weirder that you and 10 others of your friends not inding the TV they want after years of search.

It's either they are seeking for very rare TV in shortage or these malls are only offering shitty-quality TVs.

The TV was only an example for you having no use of a very good MP3-player, when seeking an TV.

You are seeking something absolutely rare. A partner for sharing the rest of your life. And that is rare. That there are tons of "people of opposite sex" dont help that, because when seeking for an relationship partner, you are not seeking a "person of opposite sex", nor "a person of opposite sex, being better then the other person of opposite sex you met", but an relationship partner. Meeting tons of "people of opposite sex" and "people of opposite sex being better then the other people of opposite sex" is of no help, if you are not seeking a "person of opposite sex" but an relationship partner. Additional, you dont have any benefit, but only misadvantages, from starting an relationship with someone, that you are not in love with. That does not change, anyway how long you have been alone, or how many persons you met.

Additional as you describe it yourself, that there are more woman then man on dating sites, is of no help if many of these man simply seek "something better then the thing I actually have" out of boredom, instead of an relationship partner to actually spend their life. Sadly, when using payfree dating sites, most of the work a woman has, is actually finding the few honest and responsible offers from men, beside all the "Oh, I am bored and alone, so ll try some funny dating" stuff.