Bringing her kid on the first date?

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I've been trying to get this girl to go on a date with me for a couple weeks now. She wants to go but she's had to keep cancelling on me because she can't find a babysitter for her ten year old son. I really want to meet her though because she seems genuinely interested in me and that's a rare thing. So I finally told her if she wanted she could bring her son on the date with her. Was this a good move on my part?

I don't mean anything negative by this..Especially since I'm engaged in polygamous relationships but you said she has a kid, is she currently with someone right now? I'm just curious... You don't have to answer if you rather not, that's alright. I know having a child doesn't always equate to already being with someone but I was just wondering.

Either way, I don't see the problem with it unless you're not comfortable around children. It gives you a chance to express yourself to her that you're really good with kids by being interactive with her own during the date. I say go for it.

Last edited by MariaTheFictionkin on 20 Dec 2017, 12:45 pm, edited 1 time in total.

No I'm not okay with cheating whether they have "permission" or not.

Ummm... ok.

Polygamy and open relationships are just a formalized way of cheating. You tell someone that he/she isn't good enough for your by themselves and you both agree that you're allowed to go make out and have sex with other people and then come back to him/her and continue your "relationship".
If you're into that that's fine but don't try to hijack my thread with it and expect me to mindlessly agree with you.

I only wanted to know if you were dating someone who was with someone else, not a debate to brew... I didn't want you to feel alone if you were into polygamous relationship, hence why I mentioned that I'm currently in multiple because I knew other people might've came around asking the same question... :/ I didn't mean to stir up any negativity...... I think I said enough here. Good luck to you and your situation...

Nobody hears "She has a kid" and immediately assumes "he's dating multiple people." Single mothers are everywhere these days. You wanted to turn this into a conversation about organized cheating and I'm not okay with it.

I don't know much about all the "dating" stuff but if I were a busy single mother, I would probably be delighted by the proposition. How old is her kid? You may consider a place with a playground.

He's ten. We're going to Outback so no playgrounds there lol

Ten is old enough.
Good luck!

Thanks!

Can’t she leave the kid at home? They’re not that young. Go in the day and let the kid go to a friends, there are endless options. It really seems like she is using the kid as an excuse, though I hope not for your sake.

He's ten. In certain countries it is illegal to leave a child that age alone. Also, it depends on the child.

Seriously, if she can't get a babysitter she can't get a babysitter. No need to analyze it to death. Better go meet her.

She wants to make sure if you get approved by the kid as well as a proper Papa replacement.

I would always like to meet the kid of my date.

Just don't try to be a "dad" to the kid right away.

More likely she's just disconnected from mainstream-society rather than trying to hijacking your thread. Her assumption was very far-fetched but probably makes sense for her personal life.






It was a good idea to tell her she could bring the child. It shows that you are not the kind of partner who tries to ignore the child's existence. hale_bopp has a point though. But at least like that you will see if she truly wants to meet you, by whether or not she keeps making excuses.