lonely aspie,what's your social life like

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so,all you lonely aspie what's your social life like.

lonely aspie:aspie who have no partners of any kind.

not having a partner of any kind does not automatically make a person lonely.


Edited to take out personal references.

It might have a correlation. I think that if I had a social life it would open the way for me to meet a partner. I don't have any friends any more to go out with and I'm not going out to try and meet someone by myself, I don't know if that would be a safe idea. Sitting here in the house in my pyjamas isn't going to help me meet a man.

I don't know that it would be particularly unsafe for me, but I wouldn't know how to go about it, even if I did go out by myself. It's not like I ever meet anybody in the normal course of day-to-day errand running and on those rare occasions when someone strikes up a conversation with me, I have no idea how to take it anywhere and it always ends in an awkward silence. I used to meet people through my job (which was also a good conversation starter), but that's not an option anymore.

The scary thing is, I feel that the more time I spend reclusively lurking in a dark apartment, the more the social skills I do have are deteriorating and I may be approaching a point where I don't know how to relate to other humans at all anymore.

I have people I consider close friends but we never hang out because they live out of town. The only socializing I do is with my family every once in a while. For me, I think dating would be more about getting out and being social instead of finding a sex partner or girlfriend.

I don't know if this is sad or not (it probably is) but the only socializing I do is with Wrong Planet. It's probably like an addiction where I come on here every day hoping to react to a thread I can relate to.

In a sad, pathetic way I come on here hoping to find someone who is feeling down and blue and needs to be cheered up. I can relate to those who are down and blue because I am like that most of the time anyway.

messaging people through myPad/myPhone.

Im a uni student at the moment (Music) and im basically at the bottom of the social ladder. I dont know how I got there or how to claw my way back up so thats where'll i'll stay.

This makes it impossible to find any girls on my course and im reluctant to even date within the uni because I know that my gf will eventually discover that she's dating the local social leper.

I havent had a stable romantic relationship yet and im still a virgin. This situation shows no sign of abating to be honest especially since women im attracted to are never attracted to me. Sometimes a girl who im not attracted to will express interest however which rubs salt into the wounds as I find myself trying to induce romantic feeling only to fail miserably

No social life whatsoever, aside from a couple of phone calls a week to family that lives more than 1000 miles away.

90% of the time I wish I was lonely so I didn't have a girlfriend.



EDIT: I just desperately want to get out of this relationship.

Non-existent outside of this site or facebook.

As active as I'd like at university.

Mildly slow at home.

I don't know how one would class my social life. At my university, I generally eat my meals with my group of good friends, though I don't really talk to other people I'm in class with (unless I already know them or it's a class discussion). I don't go to parties or social events. On the weekends, I generally either hang out with my friends in their rooms or I do things alone in my room (read, write, listen to music, watch films, etc.). In terms of a relationship, I don't really see any big chances of meeting a girl I'd want to date. None of my friends, save for one, has a girlfriend at the moment, and none of them (though non-Aspies) do just as poorly as I in that area.

When I'm home on breaks, I don't really have a social life. I don't have any friends in the town where I live. When I try to make plans with the friends that live about an hour away, they're generally either too busy or cancel at the last minute (which I'm beginning to wonder if it's more than mere coincidence). Sometimes I get a bit lonely, in terms of wanting a relationship (or even the chance to date a bit), but it's not too bad when I'm at home. (Mostly because the opportunities are much less, to nothing, at home, and they are the added complications of my very religious mother.) So, I generally spend most of my time at home alone: doing things around the house, reading, and working on my fiction writing.

I don't know if there's much of a correlation between being social and having a relationship for me, in terms of if I would be more social if I was in a relationship. I think it would have to depend on what she is like.

Obviously, however, all this will change after I move to Los Angeles.

None.

Very slow on that end and quiet much of the time. I mainly hang out with some family and only close friends on occasion.