Gay Aspie introduction

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I'm a gay 25-year-old Aspie (though like many Aspies look much younger than my age) who has put off dating because of a fear of intimacy. I'm very socialized and am blessed enough to have a large friend group, but the lack of romantic companionship is beginning to cause an ache.

I just want someone sweet, someone inexperienced like me, someone with whom I can learn and from whom I don't have to fear judgement. Another Aspie seemed like the best bet.

Do any of you know of good Aspie dating sites or anything like that? I've only found one thus far and it wasn't very good. Thanks!

I'm on OK Cupid myself. I'm not putting I'm looking for an aspie guy, though. What I do put is I'm looking for a shy and nerdy type of guy who likes movies and quiet times. That's relatively aspie-ish. Also, so no one gets confused, I put I'm looking for a platonic relationship. I don't know. I'm just not feeling sex these days. Maybe that's my depression talking.

why limit yourself to Aspie dating sites?

There are plenty of gay dating/hookup sites & likely a whole lot more homos to choose from there than an Aspie specific dating site.

Sure, Pareto's Law applies and there will be very few guys you're interested in even meeting compared to the vast majority of ads/profiles that are all about hooking up for one night stands.. but so what? Sift through the ones you don't want and find the ones you might click with. Setup a profile on various sites that says what you're looking for, and not looking for, and see what kinds of responses you get. You might just meet someone that you click with that way.

Personally, I've used various personal ads/gay sites/apps for hookup purposes over the years - quite successfully so, if we're measuring that. But I've also met some great friends through different sites, including my closest friend who is my favourite homo & about the only one I've met that I'd like to date. Maybe someday... all in due time.

Anyways, even though the vast majority of gay personals are for hookups, there are profiles and ads on them by guys just looking to meet, go for coffee, go for a hike, date, do boyfriend kinda stuff vs. just hooking up to f**k. I see no good reason not to put your own ads/profiles up on these sites and see if you might get a response or two from guys you're interested in. Good luck!

Oh, and the main couple sites that seem to be most active with ads/profiles: craigslist.org (yes, seriously.) & manhunt.net

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