Connecting w games

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I need some advice. I am an NT, my boyfriend of 3 years an aspie. We recently broke up and have no communication of any kind. He isn't a big communicator anyway, but essentially no contact. EXCEPT through games.

I travel a lot for work and once mentioned when I was gone I felt disconnected given he isn't a big phone talker. His response was play "words with friends" (a game where just the two if us play, similar to scrabble) to feel connected. We have about 10 games going at once.

Since our breakup we have had no communication (2 weeks) with each other. I did send a text asking him if he wanted to have dinner and go to a movie this weekend and his response was "I don't know. Let me think about it"

I'm confused because he still plays our games which leaves me believe he is trying to connect with me in his own way. Thoughts? Would appreciate the aspie perspective ....

Hurt and doesn't see any reason to connect with you that won't hurt. The games are something he does to fill his time. Idk never been broken up with just used as ego booster the last 5 years or so by different women. I think he just isn't a big communicator and has no impetus to continue but that's just me.

The relationship is over and you two broke up. He may be confused that you asked him out on a dinner and movie date. If he is thinking in literal terms, a breakup means time to move on. So he may actually have no desire to talk to you on the phone for that reason. I know I wouldn't have any desire to communicate through phone or in person with someone I just broke up with so quickly after the breakup happened. Some space and some time to assess feelings would be needed. I would likely need to know if I miss that person. You aren't giving him that much of an opportunity.

And this is not from my Aspie mind that I am thinking this through for. This is my introverted and my sensitivity to breakup. Also comes with my politeness and trying to follow a rule about no contact. Who initiated the contact anyway?