Do you have creepy stims?

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So, today, I was driving to work and this guy was passing by - he seemed really nice looking up until the point where he stuck his (freakishly long) tongue out - it was a brief thing, the tongue just did this flick out and down, like a snake or a frog or something but it was soooooo gross, I actually threw up in my mouth a little after seeing that.

So this made me think of all the people who I thought were nice looking just to dismiss them because they tended to do something weird with their mouth or eyes or body. And I am now also wondering if I don't have a similar affliction - it would certainly explain the lack of interest from people of the opposite sex.

I can just imagine a lot of autistic guys doing that no-eye-contact, quick askance look at the person on the first date which looks totally creepy if you are not familiar with their condition and why they are doing it. And also, maybe people are doing unconscious off-putting stims (like the tongue flick guy) which puts off women from wanting to date them?

Opinions?

No, what I have is a "too safe" and "too....unharmful stims"

Girls of all ages see me extremely safe, asking me to escort them to places during nights or through dark alleys, I am the opposite of creep.

well do you try anything with them? I mean have you been rejected by every one of those ladies? It could be that some of them may be open to you initiating something.

Anyway, do you have any thoughts on creepy stims?

You met Gene Simmons and didn't even get his autograph?

I do not like to look people in the eyes at all. The only thing creepy I do is I will stare at something, then a lady will move in the way and I will be zoned out, and she will think I am staring at her chest in public. It has only been a problem every once in a while. Some times girls think I want to ask them out and will do the giggle and pose thing, but I will say something like, "did you say something" then they will get mad and stomp off without saying anything.

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I'm nervous cheek chewer. People think I'm always grumpy. I also pick my skin (which gets embarrassing when it bleeds) and I pace like a nutcase when I'm deep in thought.

This poll needs a Not Sure option. There are things about me that could seem creepy but the 1s I think of are not stim related. I'm not aware of having any creepy stims but it wouldn't surprise me if I do or don't so I don't think the I Suspect is the rite option for me

Put me down for Nick's not-sure option.

My AS friend has a few "unusual physical habits," and I'm guessing it gets in the way of his dating. One is a combination, when in group conversation: he nods, grins and rocks simultaneously. Comes across as him granting approval, which is "off" bc he's generally not in a social-hierarchy position to be evaluating others. (Sorry if social hierarchy/desirability is un-PC; being realistic about my own standing made a huge difference in my social life.) Until now, it hadn't occurred to me that maybe he's just self-soothing or something.

He also combs his hair frequently, during conversation. Not creepy just squicky I guess.

When we went to a movie, he watched *me.* And grinned the whole time. (Believe me, I'm not that attractive nor grin-inspiring.) Annoying in my case, but would be supercreepers if he did that on a date.

Sorry, I cannot edit the poll any more. Please feel free to state your option within the post, if it is not available on the poll or even if it is, whatever works for you.

^ZaphodsCloset your friend sounds like he may be putting people off unconsciously, is it possible to try and bring it to his attention? He may want to do something about it. Or he may be upset - you know him best, so do whatever seems right.



Until I found WP and started thinking purposefully about it, I didn't realise just how many stims and socially questionable behaviours I had been suppressing all my life. For example, I still sort of clap my hands and jump up and down when I am excited although I try and do it in a non-lame way - um, but I realised I am too old for it to be anything but odd now so I am trying not to any more. I also noticed the other day how I was swinging side to side in the bathroom while I was thinking about something. I live alone now so I guess I have allowed myself to behave more naturally. I think I was just encouraged to suppress anything odd about myself from an early age, although there are so many odd things about me I have always been seen as eccentric. It really doesn't help not having any close confidantes who could point out to me when I am doing something a bit off. I think one of my main reasons for wanting a partner is to have someone in my life who would protect me by doing this and being a buffer between me and the rest of the world. I guess that means they would have to be NT but no NT would ever be interested in me, so this means, I will remain single forever.