why won't any woman commit to me

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yep,I failed my 3rd relationship(with the female co-worker)
she became my girlfriend,and the relationship failed.
a brief girlfriend,I got on her ''nerves'',this is pissing me
off.I hate getting dumped.it's stupid,it sucks,it makes me
sad and depressed.now,she barely talks to me.

our friendship and relationship start good,then
it went downhill. f--k,I want a woman,who won't
dump me. Im upset right now.

why won't any woman commit to me.

What exactly did you do to get on her nerves?

well,she started out very flirty and friendly,but once she
got to know me more better,the more annoyed and frustrated
she got. had other females do the same,they start out good,
but the more I talk to them,the more annoyed they get.

it sucks more with her,the other females were just
minor friends and acquaintances.

Your values didn't match. You'll find another one, just check next time to see if your values matches. Then you can just be your self.

Easy right? Problem is, finding them is a pain.

IIRC when you were dating her you made it out that she wasn't really your girlfriend and it would be ok for you to hit on other women, while she remained loyal to you.
I think before you ask why someone won't commit to you, you should ask yourself why you aren't committing to that person to begin with.

This isn't me wanting to have a go at you in any way. Like many here I sort of read most of your threads in this section and would like to see you get progress

Do you have a job? Do you live with your parents?

Are you clingy or needy? Do you expect them to pay their own way?

Do you talk more than you listen? What do you talk about?

she did become my girlfriend,but very briefly.But we were dating for few month
or so.we very close there at one time. and it sucks,I finally get another
woman,and gets f--k up. she barely talks to me now.

(in order of your questions)
yes,yes,don't now,yes,I started talking more,various of thing.
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Bill, I'm sorry to hear things didn't work out.

Commitment is a big scary thing for lots of people. Not everyone is willing to make a commitment.

This might sound unhelpful and inane, especially if you're like me and tend to analyze things to find out what went wrong so that it can be fixed, but you maybe need to take some time out from thinking about romance and concentrate on some 'you time' and help yourself get over what happened.

Have a nice weekend and do something you enjoy to cheer yourself up

Having Aspergers or just being different or unique can be problematic for others to deal with after awhile. It could be numerous things that got on her nerves

Its simple......its because [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sHk-VDpKWR4[/youtube]

Damn man, I know the feeling of when women back off. It's utter s**t when that happens.

I figured though, perhaps commitment isn't everything. It may be better to just enjoy myself, and just let that happen along the way if it's going to. I mean, it's no good withdrawing from dating, it's just I don't expect or want it to get serious or anything, and I no longer care if it goes to a relationship level. I can see one positive - she was honest with you. You can work with honest, you can't work s**t from liars and people who try to 'protect your feelings', I despise cowards who lie so they don't have to feel mean.

You already know the answer - you are getting on their nerves. There are behaviours you are displaying or things you are saying that are rubbing these women up the wrong way. If they are not willing to be completely open with you and tell you specifically what it is that annoys them about you (you need to ask them to tell you, they won't do it voluntarily), then you need to do your own investigation. At what points did she seem to be annoyed with you during the relationship? What did you say or do that caused negative reactions? If you think you could work on fixing those things, do. If you don't think they are negative qualities, just that who you are doesn't match with who she is, then you need to try to find someone more compatible.

^ I am going to guess it all started to go wrong when he demanded that she be happy around him at all times and when he wouldn't shut up about political views of women being the cause of all problems everywhere

Maybe a heads-up to the potential girlfriend that you have a hard time reading other people's body-language, emotional reactions, unspoken signals, etc., and ask her to tell you if you do something that offends or annoys her. If you can pinpoint what it is you are doing to put them off, maybe you can work on changing that behavior.

Honestly, that's all any of us can do. If there's no girlfriend to ask, ask a friend or family member to tell you things you do that offend or annoy them. I had a very close friend once tell me something I was doing that really bothered her (and had done for all the time we'd been friends), so I took a look at that behavior and modified it. ALL of my social interactions became better once I was able to do that. Since then, I've asked other people close to me to do the same. I may be socially inept, but I'm smart and I can change or modify some of my behaviors if necessary.....well, some things, not necessarily all. For the things I can't change, at least I know when to STFU.

and she's not the first one's,I've had other females I indirectly pissed off.
my new ex gf(the female co-worker)barely talks to me now.
damnit,it sucks.If I get a 4th GF,hopefully it goes good.

I don't like being dump