Are people with AS more abstinent than autists to love?

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I know many people with AS and autism and I'm beginning to wonder if they aren't the same thing or that the aspies just have a strange personality because the ones with autism appear to even be into half-naked pictures of girls while the aspies shun at the sight of things like that and love, I showed a porn DVD to an aspie friend and he turned walked away down strairs while mumbling no no no, I just don't get it

It's like most people with AS are just strange loveshy nerds while autists are ret*d and/or brain-damaged people with different opinions on it.

What does a porn DVD have to do with love?



I'm an Asperger, but also ret*d. So one does not exclude the other.

I meant to write sexuality too, love and intimacy, if AS and autism was genetic (which I don't think is true) the aspies wouldn't be like that and many of them (at least the males) are single for life.

I'm not a virgin myself and I know I enjoy sex and the emotional and physical connection that comes with it. But at a young age, I was probably more intimidated it by the thoughts or even the acts of sex or intimacy and love. It takes a while for people to get used to those kinds of things.

Porn on the other hand isn't always going to show men or women in the best light. Some types of porn can show some very degrading acts. Yet people in those videos seem to enjoy it, or are at least getting paid to look like they are.

I doubt that. You've listed mathematics and computer science as your interests and you said that you're a researcher of applied mathematics in your introductory post. If that's what you were told based on the result of an IQ test, then I think that the IQ test got wrong. This has got nothing to do with the thread topic though.

It could be that he just didn't want to watch porn with you. I was diagnosed with Asperger's in 2006 (back when people could still be diagnosed with "Asperger's" instead of "Autism Spectrum Disorder" which is what they call it now much to my annoyance and that of many others here). Porn doesn't bother me at all. In fact, like many people, I enjoy it periodically. However, the idea of watching porn with one of my friends... well, that sounds like it would be pretty uncomfortable for me.

In my experience, most aspies have what I'd consider to be a normal level of appreciation for these things. It's just that since sex is generally somewhat taboo & we aren't good at determining social boundaries, most of us choose to avoid communication pertaining to the subject.

Love (not to be conflated with sex) might be treated very different. For example, I love hugging people. It doesn't have to be someone with whom I have a romantic relationship. It could be a friend, teacher or (in one case) guy I got into a little fight with at a party and was attempting to apologize to after I knocked the wind out of him. Sometimes noone thinks of this as strange, but in some situations someone points out to me later that my behavior broke one of the unwritten rules that neurotypicals seem to know instinctively.

On the other hand, I was never big on kissing. Just last month, I was at the park and a girl from the highschool kissed me on the lips. It felt incredibly uncomfortable partially because I didn't know why she was kissing me (it's not like we really knew each other) & partialy because of my general aversion to kissing. However, she hugs me almost eery time I see her and I'm far more comfortable with this.

I have a friend with AS that has a strong aversion to physical contact in general. These things vary significantly between individuals.

Maybe he just thinks you're a pervert and doesn't want to be associated with that. You're making outrageous and unfounded assumptions.

I'm not I've watched porn with friends.

I'm pretty sure that your statement directly offends 90% of this forum's userbase.

Autism is a spectrum & Aspergers is on the higher end of it. Maybe the lower to mid range Autistics have not grasped/learned the mental concepts that cause Aspies to be aware of social stigma, not fitting in & how awkward they come off as. Being aware of that causes Aspies to be afraid of porn with others due to it being taboo & appear love shy due to fear of rejection. I'm just speculating here

I'm more embarressed to watch porn with my aspie friends but not those w/without autism :/

Why would anyone want to watch porn with friends anyway? It's something that I would rather do privately.

I appreciate your opinion, but the reason of my statement is not a botched IQ test. No, after I was diagnosed with Asperger's, I was recommended to join a project for housing and everyday life coaching for the mentally disabled. Apparently my therapist thought I need help zipping my pants and making my breakfast.

No, I have friends who have got the wrong diagnosis and one of them has a light brain damage and several aspies I know must have it, retardation and/or autism combined since AS excludes retardation as far as I understand but everyone are phrone to brain damage, why should someone be offended by facts like that anyway?