Dating site for people with Aspergers?

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I have been working on self improvement for quite some time. I have never yet dated because of body issues being very underweight plus Aspergers/major Depression/Anxiety. I'm feeling a bit better after going from 110-120lbs super skinny at 5'11 to 170lbs semifit.

I am wondering in particular about dating sites especially if there are any Asperger specific dating sites. I don't have ideas about settling down or anything like that I just want to start dating. I'd like to learn more but I think at this time it is best to try for first-hand experience. Just want to meet interesting women and see how it goes.

I read some debates and such on here but honestly my only opinion is "what do I do about it?" Not criticizing any view point just focusing on what are the best things for me to do. My position is that I want to create a fair relationship for both people as IMO that is the only way to have a truly sustainable relationship, one that is fair and meets the needs of both people.

Google says there are several aspie dating sites but from experience they get low traffic compared to mainstream dating sites.

If you want a non-aspie specific dating site you could try RSVP. My last two girlfriends came from that site. It's a little costlier than other dating sites but that means the girls on that site don't get hundreds of messages per day, leaving you with little competition from other men.

I joined all the Aspie & autism dating sites I could find years ago. Some were just scams sending me a bunch of messages from women in my town when my town was very small & rural. The other sites had an extremely high ratio of men to women on them. Most dating sites have a higher percentage of men to women but it's worse on Aspie dating sites cuz Aspergers is diagnosed more in men than women & Aspergers is thought of as kind of an extreme male brain which means that Aspie women can relate to NT guys better than Aspie guys can relate to NT women.

That matches what I expect. I have heard years ago a figure like 20:1 for males to females for the gender ratio of those diagnosed with Asperger's. I have it a bit of a milder form of it, I might be somewhere halfway. I sought to get diagnosed but they only said "I have shades of it" so I think no formal diagnosis.

I like PC game modding that's like my hobby but I am not a genius at it like the authors of some of the most impressive or craziest mods. I like to spend a lot of time on it but the results are fairly modest. I have social difficulties but perhaps have some degree of social skills. I can usually at least sense if something is wrong in a social situation though I may not know the reasons why and similarly I can tell if someone if someone is feeling emotional though I may not understand why.

At least, I do fine for identifying what the NTs would cause obvious situations like someone is very upset/tired/angry/etc, situations where their body language is very clear and not subtle. I have so far only met one other person with Aspergers and I've found it is easier to interact with them, this is what had gotten to consider trying to find a dating site for people with Aspergers. Some NT women who talk about things like the Kardashians/jersey shore or whatever's on nowadays/boybands can be quite irritating to me also, similarly to how talking about Aspergers things can be irritating to them.

Interesting about the scam sites, this is precisely why I didn't go through Google to find any since they can easily be scams(the majority of dating sites outside the known ones are likely scam sites).

It might be a good idea to also join and participate in aspie Facebook groups, as they’re active and as it’s more of a community, you’re more likely to get engagement.

If the upper 5% of men don't use dating sites than you won't be completing against them.

You only need to be in the upper 5% of the men on the dating site, not in the upper 5% of the general male population.

What I'd like to know is why the ratio is 20:1

Is it because 95% of women already have a boyfriend? Is it because 95% of women want to remain single? Is it because 95% of women look for a boyfriend elsewhere?

My exp theres no site. Notta one. most boast of there number of matches but alas only few end in marriage. Under triple digets. There are dating sites aimed for specifically as or some other mental issue . The plus is that gets rid of the issue of revealing your secret to your date down the line. But on the other hand, you have to pay for the sevice. Its a gamble money wise. Good luck

eh i have been on aspergers dating sites, not much luck. Even on disability sites i haven't had luck.
I had more luck on OKC (met my now sweetie on there), Oasis and gk 2 gk (i wouldn't recommend that unless want to pay).
There was one connected to this site but got taken down ages ago, wasn't much good anyways.
I use to be on passions network, was good, free msg'ing, chatted to a few guys on there.
One i met up, went out 3 times, then deleted me on FB for not feeling a connection when i met romantic connection. He liked me but i only liked him has a friend, i think he was piss at that and he felt entitled cos he liked me. Like a typical 'nice guy'.

hey, I used dating sites too, however, the most important thing I was able to understand is that you don't have to be desperate due to refuse of a woman, because there are a lot of them and you don't have to concentrate your attention only on a single one! Personally I was rejected by a beautiful woman, and I was so depressed, that even my friend walked to me to calm me down Really, he gave me a lot of examples from real life and even sent me an article about situation when you are rejected by a single lady from Ukraine, and I read a lot of times that article to convince myself I will find someone worthy... You know, it helped me improve my self-esteem and dignity