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19 Feb 2014, 3:15 pm

Why is it acceptable to need family and friends, while people who need a significant other (girlfriend/boyfriend/spouse/etc.) are considered to be "too needy," unstable, not ready for a relationship, etc.?



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19 Feb 2014, 4:36 pm

We don't choose family, they're a given. The people who "need" a significant other seem to choose ANYONE and will continue to stay with that person even if it's a bad relationship. It's really unhealthy.



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19 Feb 2014, 4:40 pm

Soccer22 wrote:
We don't choose family, they're a given. The people who "need" a significant other seem to choose ANYONE and will continue to stay with that person even if it's a bad relationship. It's really unhealthy.


So it's the way they are going about relationships that is unhealthy, not the needing a significant other itself?



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19 Feb 2014, 4:47 pm

starkid wrote:
Soccer22 wrote:
We don't choose family, they're a given. The people who "need" a significant other seem to choose ANYONE and will continue to stay with that person even if it's a bad relationship. It's really unhealthy.


So it's the way they are going about relationships that is unhealthy, not the needing a significant other itself?


Correct, I think everyone wants to be loved and accepted, that's a given, so it's not a problem that we want to find that. The problem is some people enter into unhealthy relationships just because they aren't confident being alone and single.



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19 Feb 2014, 5:29 pm

Soccer22 wrote:
starkid wrote:
Soccer22 wrote:
We don't choose family, they're a given. The people who "need" a significant other seem to choose ANYONE and will continue to stay with that person even if it's a bad relationship. It's really unhealthy.


So it's the way they are going about relationships that is unhealthy, not the needing a significant other itself?


Correct, I think everyone wants to be loved and accepted, that's a given, so it's not a problem that we want to find that. The problem is some people enter into unhealthy relationships just because they aren't confident being alone and single.



That, and some people sit around and complain all day about their loneliness which makes people annoyed with them.



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19 Feb 2014, 5:38 pm

Well we accept the love we think we deserve so... I can see where that leads to unhealthy relationships.


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19 Feb 2014, 5:52 pm

Because those turn into stalkers who "need" people who don't want a damn thing to do with them.


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