I give up

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I have tried and tried to meet people that I could connect with, but no such person exists.

My criteria for a potential girlfriend is:

1. She is an Aspie
2. She lives within 50 miles of Boise, ID, or is willing to do a long-distance relationship
3. She has the same interests as me
4. She is height-weight proportionate (meaning she is skinny and has an ample chest)
5. She has liberal views toward sex (meaning she is not waiting until marriage).

Criteria #2 aside, I have only come across two people who met all of the other criteria--one of them was not willing to do a long-distance relationship, and the other one was only 17 years old (in the U.S., the age of consent is 18).

If I add criteria #2, stating she must either live near Boise, or do a long-distance relationship, then my chances of meeting anyone is zero.

I give up.

Tim

so, a skinny aspie with huge knockers that lives near you, and likes the same stuff as you? You're digging yourself into a hole.
I'm not trying to be rude or anything, but if you're that picky with it you're never going to get anyone. Then you come here and complain because no Pamela Andersons take your fancy.

This isn't meanth to be negative or anything.
But the odds of finding a girlfriend with those criteria are worse than winning the lottery.
Try getting finding a girl you like and than see if it works.
Every girl is an individual, they won't just fit some criteria like yours.
There is no perfect girl.....
Finding a girlfriend isn't like buying a car.

Bart21 got it right. You can't be picky, and chase after only gorgeous women. If you'd forget this NT brainwashing, you'd discover that there are lots of ladies that aren't well endowed, but have an interesting mind and spirit. The NT world is very hard on women, measuring their beauty. If you show interest in one that's less than pretty, you might just be surprised.

(They can't all look like Hale_Bop, you know!!)

Enjoy your lifelime of celibacy

Dude, you're only been looking for anew one for a few weeks now or two months and you're already giving up? It's too soon, you only been looking for a month perhaps. Maybe I shall give up looking for men because I have been trying since this summer and still no luck. I feel I am not connecting to my buddies I met within a few hours from me.

Here's my advice, by criteria

1. Aspie Affection and other dating sites might help you find an Aspie girl
2. Don't look at locations yet... my boyfriend tried to look for a local girl and realised he might not find one... but he found me, and even though it's long distance, we have plans to meet
3. Pick one or two interests, and search from there. If you have too much, then you may be filtering out hundreds of potentials that actually may have interests that would interest you.
4. DAMN VISUALISTS! Sorry... I'm definetly not what you're looking for, but toss aside looks, and you might just have a chance. Even if the girl isn't Lara Croft with a boob job, you may find that her body is much more exciting than Pam's ever would be
5. It probably wouldn't matter if she is "liberal" or not, if what you're looking for is to get laid, understand that you're setting yourself up for heartbreak if that's all you're looking for. Even a long-time partner may eventually want the magic ring, so if it's marriage you're afraid of, then be warned...

Good luck!

For me I just want comfort in a partner, its so rare for me to be comfortable with someone, thats ALL i look for now.

of course there are certain things about me that have to be understood to prevent constant fighting and breakdowns, but I think I've got the hang of that now so its simply comfort..

Harder than it sounds..

You could always wait until you get to school and find someone in your classes - that way you know that they will be interested in the same things as you and you'd have things to talk about with her instead of not having much to say.

Good luck!

I only date people I'm attracted to. Girls who have both an attractive personality and an attractive body do exist. Because such girls are so common, I also like the girl to have similar interests.

I don't know, I'm not attracted to someone until we have something more intellectual in common.
Arbitrary standards don't work. You have to be friends first and then the attraction may come later.
I would try clubs or places where people with same interests meet.

Age of consent laws vary from state to state. I would shack up with a 17 year old regardless what the law said. And she could be flat chested but I agree I would want a skinny girl.

If I can't find anyone like that in Boise, I would be looking for someone who is willing to do a long-distance relationship. But there are very, very few women who are willing to do that.

As far as sex goes, I am not looking to get laid, it's just that I don't have the willpower to wait until marriage. A lot of people are "co-habitating" before marriage, especially when the divorce rate in the U.S. is 50%.

Tim

That's not something I feel I should risk, especially since Texas is very proud of its legal system, and especially as long as Rick Perry is our governor. If I were absolutely certain that a relationship with a 17-year-old was legal, then I would consider it.

Tim

You have less than a year to wait...

That was my plan, but I wish there were more people who I feel would be a perfect fit.

Tim