Where to meet singles?

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I'm very sorry, but I don't find anywhere locally to find singles.

I know there's college, but it's just a two year school. And sadly, there are a limited number of student activites and clubs, and an even smaller number of people involved.

There's also bars, but I'm not big on booze, and I'm only 19. I have a sister who has picked up a married guy, and a convicted fellon 12 years older than her there. Not somewhere I want to frequent.

Work? I love my job, but I don't work with any ladies... well, in what part of the grocery store I work in. And dating coworkers is not a good thing -- I've done it, and I regret it.

You could try meeting people online and then meet them somewhere near you.

I've tried online dating:

Here's my most comptable results:

A teacher at the high school who I know, some tramp I worked with, and another person who I worked with who's way older than me.

Not looking very good.

Get a job on campus.

I can't get one... I don't get finincal aid, which is required for most all of 'em. And there's a ton of them open. Plus I don't get good grades which is required for most. Oh yeah, and I have a decent job. No ladies there, well in my department. And the ladies out of my department are hard to talk to when working. And I never see them outside of work.

Get friends and then meet people through your friends.

Bars, pubs and clubs. fullstop.

There is where you go if you want to meat chavs, jocks or pikies.

Anywhere you can find AS females.

I have friends, gasp shock! But sorry, the friends they have that are females, are either the hot topic/emo/etc trash.

Sorry.

If you can meet a certain type of person at a bar then they probably just aren't worth meeting.

Pubs/Bars/Clubs all suck. There are so many rules of engagement to follow, it's ridiculous. Say one wrong thing and you're done. It's mostly because women put up this wall that's almost uncrackable. So, you have to meet them where they don't have that wall up.

Here's my secret place:

IKEA weekdays between 11am and 5 pm. I'm serious! Mostly single college women or young professionals that are new to the area and have just moved into an apartment or house. The conversation topics are endless. And if you can't think of anything, just ask her for advice with something that you're thinking of buying. It's perfectly non-confrontational. And if everything goes well you can invite her for coffee and a cinnamon roll after checkout. I've been successful so many times...It's like shooting fish in a barrel.

PS. Only couples go later than 5pm or on weekends.
And do I need to mention this site (I don't work them nor gain anything from mentioning them): http://www.fastseduction.com ?

He's 19. Most bars require you to be of legal drinking age and he says he's not into booze anyway.

I've heard a lot of NT's say they met at church. I would think you would have a lot of busy body older people at churchs that would help fix up eligible singles. And if you're not regliously inclined you can always go to a Unitarian Universalist church because even agnostics and aetheists are welcomed there. They just like to talk theories about life from what I've been told.

Also do you have any hobbies that are popular? For instance there might be a hiking club in your town. Or stamp collecting, or any other hobby where there might be a club that meets monthly that would allow you a place to meet others. Calling the reference librarian or going to meetup.com is the easiest way to find local groups. Also see if there is an autism group in your town.

Volunteer work might be another idea. Volunteer for things like community cleanups, food banks or even at the hospital. If you volunteer at hospital get something where you are not isolated in one small dept like ask for front desk position, delivery, messangers or ER so you have chance to meet a lot more people.

Do you have festivals in your community such as the Celtic Fair, Summer Fest, etc? Just some ideas.

That Ikea idea is brilliant! I was going to say the grocery store, but that is hit or miss and also may depend on where you live.

Definitley not online. Unless you revel in the idea of meeting the most discriminatory and dismissive women on the planet. Dating online is not as easy as trying to hook up in real life. For starters, you have to take the time to research the profile thoroughly about the person, and even if you think you've written the perfect introduction, she'll still blow you off because she doesn't like you physically or even had a chance to read your letter because she was inundated with tons of other replies. Then there's the fact that if, within your period of banter, you slip up just one... BAM, its the silent treatment and its time to move on to the next one.

Oh yeah, and even if everything runs perfectly and you both decide to meet up, there's still the distinct possiblity that they'll flake out on you and not show up (which is what happened to me when I was about to go out on my last date).

I wish there was a forum of dating out there that doesn't give women 100% of the benefit, and makes them have to work hard to get somebody's attention. It would be nice to see them have to go through what average blokes like us experience everyday.