theres a girl i like who im sure that she has aspergers

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hello, im 17 and was diagnosed in 2010 when i was 13, back then when i was diagnosed i was your classic Aspie; i would spend most of my time on the internet, playing video games and having one main interest that i would never get bored of. my life has went down a few rocky roads but now im settled to where i am, i have had a decent bit of life experience compared to the typical aspie (not saying that all aspies don't get out) when i was 14 i started experimenting with alcohol and cigarettes with just a friend i had. Thats where it all took off from, i started hanging out with a few of the cool kids who i used to despise, getting drunk and going to parties, had a few close encounters with the law, i didnt exactly enjoy it all but now i dont drink or party as much and im a chill stoner who just wants to enjoy life but sometimes i feel like my AS is holding me back (im rambling on here like crazy, id better wrap it up)

im at college doing a course for people with some support needs (dyslexia, adhd, learning difficulties, AS ect) and there is this girl in the class who i text alot but i swear to god she is impossible to talk to in person, i know i should be more sympathetic considering i have AS too but even i have more social skills than a wall! I haven't actually been told she has aspergers but i can spot it a mile away. When i try to talk to her in person im lucky to get a hi, i have to really try to get her to say something thats actually a conversation not just a brief answer. after college she will text me but its still mainly the same old boring conversation but she will always try to talk to me over text, i have asked her to go into town with me multiple times in an attempt to break this very thick ice but all she seems to want to do is stay in her house. i like her a bit, she is pretty and ive always had trouble with girls understanding me so im interested in seeing what its like to date someone who's mind works the same, i think the difference between us is that i have learned to cope with my AS because i was an autistic mess back in the early days before getting diagnosed and even for a short while after

Dating women like that can be difficult because they can lead you on and have no idea they're leading you on.

I've found what works best is sticking to what makes them comfortable - don't push yourself on her. Let her start a few conversations, try to take her somewhere she'll feel safe.