"We'll keep in touch" Ladies' opinion preferred.

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My intuition is reading a potentital red flag. I need an opinion here.

When someone you are dating says to you when you make plans with them "We'll keep in touch." What does that mean for you in your interest level towards that guy?

My intuition is telling me that it translates to "I'm losing interest in you, but I'll go with the plans for that day anyway."

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sorry! I didn't realise you've already made plans.

I have no idea what it means. If you have already made plans I don't understand why you have to keep in touch although my experience of my NT female friends and relatives tells me they like to keep in touch almost constantly. It's very demanding.

Perhaps she means she expects you to text/phone her between now and then?

I can tell you that we are from two different cultures and she is very traditional. I am quite traditional myself. She is more shy and reserved than any other girl I have dated or been with. The plans are usually initiated by me, and I find that she doesn't often initiate phone calls. She always comes out, never turns down (unless for family emergency, or close friend or relative visiting town).

Of course, the way things work in this culture, we are trained to believe that a girl that initiates phone calls and text messages is interested in us. Yet, we are still expected to make first moves in asking for phone numbers and dates (same as her culture from what I know). She very rarely initiates phone or text conversations.

Perhaps, she is making things as easy as she knows how to and I may not be seeing that way because of my experience with same cultured women.

oh dear. poor you. If she is traditional then you will have to do all the work up and including reading her mind and knowing things you cannot possibly be expected to know.

I honestly am constantly surprised how anyone manages to procreate, let alone create overpopuplated earth considering how difficult we make it for eachother to even go out.

Is there any way you could just ask her what she means, trying to maybe blame it on cultural differences that you don;t already know, but not in such a way that she would get offended?

I wish I could be of more help, but seriously, if I have to struggle to understand the simplest messages, I just don't bother, life is too short.

I have mixed feelings - this is how that would work for me:

For someone I'm already dating, that generally loosely means that we'll touch base again before the planned get-together in case anything needs to be adjusted last-minute.

For someone I haven't been out with yet, that generally means "I haven't decided yet."

I haven't got a clue what she meant by that. I think you are just going to have to wait & see.
"We'll keep in touch"? That means she'd like to hear from you before you go out ? That implies that both parties should "Keep in touch". (doesn't it?)
Maybe wait a while & call her before the date, if you have not heard from her...?????????

She means that she wants to touch each other's asses every other day.

Wait...no...don't go! I was kidding!

It most likely translates into either "I never want to see you again" or "I might if I can be bothered or want to try to be polite, but its a low priority and I probably won't".

If someone I really like I met online.. I would text them pretty soon after. I probably wouldn't bother saying that.. I would say "I will text you".

Don't ask her what it means. It will make you look stupid and put her on the spot. It's an unspoken rule, and doing this will ensure you never see her again.

Ah, yes, that explains so much about my problems in social circumstances.

I would def view it as a polite let down.

Ok. No more rationalizing her words or behavior. There is only one way to find out and that is to call/text and make sure of the plans for tonight.

Truth here it seems to be that women use double speak as a means of letting people down.

Women only use double speak??? Biggest load of codswallop ever. Grrrrrr.

Yes, it's a subtle letdown. I'm sorry.

When I read the original post, that sounded like something you might say after a traffic accident, or litigation, but since the OP has a relationship with her, it made no sense to me.
It's official!! ! I don't understand men or women.