My Friend Lost His Virginity, and Got a Girlfriend

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So over Valentines weekend a buddy of mine, who is 18 years old, finally had sex for the first time. The story of him losing his virginity sounded... awkward, not on his part though, the girl he had sex with was a bit cooky in the head (ie. she lied to him telling him he had chlamydia). Well it didn't really matter cause the results came up negative. It was only a few days later though that he met the girl who he now calls his girlfriend. I'm proud of him though, I really am. He comes from the short, smelly end of life's s**t stick, and that fact he found someone he can genuinely say he loves makes me proud of him. I'm jealous of him though, not because he has a girlfriend, but he has the ability to get one. The lucky bastard is some kind of guitar god, and can make a girl orgasm just by strumming a few chords. Me on the other hand, I talk I read, and I write crap, that's about all I am good at. So far those qualities don't seem to attract many women, even though there are a few who think it's "cool" I'm a history major it can't quite compare to playing guitar so good it can make a woman cum in her panties. I guess the best thing I can do is just fight on till the right one comes along.

You can start by not being bitter and crass.

Didn't really ask for advice, or a question of any kind, but thanks anyways.

Ok.

You don't have to be a "guitar god" to get a girlfriend. Maybe when you're 18 and girls still like that s**t, but at my age, if you're a "guitar god", you're typically told to go off and get a real job.

Also not too certain about how this guy approaches relationships, he had sex with some girl, then met a new one a few days later and already tells her he loves her? Geez.

Ok.

Maybe you can write some love poetry, to moisten things up.

And using the word "finally" for an 18 year old losing his virginity? He barely had to wait. 18 is still very young,

It's okay to feel jealous. We all do sometimes. You're being honest and expressing yourself well. I think it will happen for you too in time. Women are looking for different things in men. For now just focus on the things that make you happy.

In this time, no that is not very young. Not "Oh, finally" worthy, but not very young at all.

So do you write crap or do you write a bunch of stuff? If you write things that are crap, then that won't work. However, if you are a good writer, then you can write a romantic poem, or write a romantic song and guitar music to go with it, or a very nice, lovely story. That is fully comparable to guitar, if you are good enough at any performing arts, then plenty of girls would like you. That attitude on the other hand might not help so much.

Agree to disagree. I think with most people being virgins in their mid twenties to early forties in the aspergers community, eighteen years is not a long wait when puberty only hit them 3-5 years ago. When I was eighteen, I had no clue how to live in the real world. Never mind thinking about sex.

Forgive me I sometimes forget most people don't speak So-Cal English. It's kinda like New york if you don't swear casually know one is gonna really know what you mean, so when I say "crap" a better word would be "unperfected."

So how do I change my attitude? I have ways of coping with the hard stuff in life, and I actually put a filter on a lot of the stuff I think. The only reason I seem so bitter is because I come on here to vent mostly, I'm really quite a cheery individual in real life. I mean no matter what all anyone on here is going to be to me are just internet people.

The warts of the internet in a nutshell...everyone is two dimensional and dehumanized. But yeah, taking each day as it comes is all we can do.

My youngest is 18 and recently got a gf who lives with him. He can't play guitar at all. He's never been able to. He can only play video games.

I guess one thing I'm doing that I consider improving chances is attempting to become as physically well-toned as possible. Not trying to become Bruce Lee, though having the muscles of Bruce Lee would be nice.