Will my ideal relationship work?

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I kind of think that this relationship won't work, but I'm hope in that it will. I'm hoping to date someone who is strong, interesting, independent and not disabled. I'm okay with issues like depression, anxiety and ADHD. I just don't find Aspies attractive personality wise.

I also don't want the person I'm dating to find out that I was diagnosed with autism as a kid and was in special ed. I don't really think I'm a true autistic anyways, I think being considered autistic made me more messed up than I would have been. I think I'm just a messed up girl with ADHD.

I'm okay with them thinking I'm quirky, just not disabled. I'm planning to always live on my own so they won't see me when I'm extremely tired. I tend to act weird, childish and rude when I'm tired.

Good question.

Most guys will want their girlfriend to move in with them if the relationship gets serious, so never wanting to move in with your boyfriend could be a problem.

Aside from that it sounds pretty normal.

I'm glad this sounds pretty normal. One thing I forgot to mention is that I'm not really into guys. I might consider being with one if I'm attracted.

It sounds fine to me. good luck
I hope you find a great gal and
some happiness.

I would think the same would apply for lesbian relationships. My friends who are lesbian have had their girlfriends move in when it got serious.

That's what I'm worried about. I guess I'll have to find a non-uhauling girlfriend. I don't think anyone that I'm attracted to can handle me when I'm tired. The people that can "handle" me are not my type. I want a girlfriend, not a caretaker.

It can work; there are people who prefer to live separately. There probably aren't a lot of them, though. You might also consider living together and having extra space, like a separate room you go to to be alone when you feel tired.

I have found that relationships are far more enjoyable when we both have our own space. I think it is really healthy, I am sure you will be able to find someone who enjoys both your company and is willing to live apart.
Good luck

If you did decide to move in, you might be able to do something like get a 2 bedroom and have the 2nd room be a guest/relax room. You could use it as an office and a place to sleep if you needed to be alone.

According to a study published last year, 9% of couples in the UK are "living apart together". So your preferred living arrangement isn't all that unusual!

I'd prefer living apart together too.

http://www.bbk.ac.uk/news/birkbeck-rese ... ifestyle-c