If you tell them your an aspie they will dump you!

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Its true if you tell them your an aspie off the bat they will dump you and if they find out later they will dump you there has to be somewhere inbetween when dating NTs.

My husband found out when I did that I was. This was after a couple decades of marriage though, so we were used to each others issues. I think maybe people just don't know what to expect when you say that. They will expect you to throw a fit over missing Judge Wapner or something like that out of the blue. I'd suggest that when you want to explain some quirk or something just say "I've got a little neurological wierd wiring, but it's no big deal. It's nothing to worry about, I'll explain it later" and let it go.

Oh, and BTW, I didn't hang up on you the other night. My phone ran out of minutes and just died on me! I enjoyed talking to you! When I get more minutes we will have to talk again! Thanks for that, it's nice to get support when you need it, and with the run of crappy luck I've been having, boy did I ever need it. (read about the car wreck today in the haven as well, plus my dog got out last night and was out all night so I was up all night trying to get him back in, etc). Things have got to start going better for me, they seriously do. ((hugs))

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I am always open this way if anyone can't take it I don't worry about ending it early. I have actually found someone, just takes time to find the right person.

No, this is not necessarily true. You're just posting an insecurity you have and hoping that other people will confirm it. Again.

It certainly happens, and if you lead off with it, it might be more likely to occur.

But as you get to know and love someone, love will balance our some of the quirks.

I'm an NT dating an Aspie. Hypothesis disproven.

I would never use the word "aspie." I never liked that word. I would tell them in a different way. First things first is I would make sure they even knew what aspergers is because many people still don't. If they have a really negative reaction about it, I would know ahead a time that relationship would never work.

If you tell someone on a dating site about ANY medical issue it will look like a big red flag and you'll probably get dumped. The same applies to things like criminal records, you just don't talk about that sort of stuff until well into a relationship, preferably when the person concerned is in your arms and you're having a relaxing end to the day.

Done right this will have no effect on your relationship. When I told my girlfriend that I had AS she just kissed me on the cheek, said "Oh, I wondered what it was" and then carried on raiding the bag of chocolates we were meant to be sharing.

I did not know I was on the spectrum until I was well into 10 years of marriage with 2 kids (we've now been together 20 years). My husband is committed to our relationship and our family, though I sometimes wonder what the future holds. Autism is very hard on all relationships.

If I ever were to enter the dating world again, I'm not sure how I would handle the "reveal." Ideally, I would be with someone who is also on the spectrum, so it wouldn't matter.

I am upfront about my issues and guys never really seem to have a problem with it. My lack of a love life has to do with other factors.

How you say it could be key. And unless the guy seems really cool I usually just warn them I have issues with eye contact before the first meeting and leave the who issue unnamed until a few dates in.

That's not my experience at all. They are usually just interested to learn more. But I don't tend to date the NT-est of NTs. Often they'll say they suspect they have aspie traits as well, which leads to plenty of very interesting conversations and certainly no dumping.

The last person I was on a date with, we had a lengthy discussion about our personality types and why we like and dislike certain things. After a while I said that "pretty much all of this is explained by the fact that I have autism" (this is our first date), and his reaction was just plain curiosity/interest.

Well sometimes it might be my INTJ personality type which is not the most compatible with most NTs. Sometimes I just feel like I have to hide myself for relationships to work because there are still a lot who do not understand and instantly assume high maintinence. Sorry for the generalizations of NTs I just get frustrated at times I just wish I could open up but fear rejection because of it and it usually results in that. It hurts it hurts a lot and I try to change myself to try and fit the expectations of others but it is emotionally draining.