Another thread about asking girls out

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So there's this girl in one of my classes. She's quite cute and obviously quite intelligent. I've been learning to pick up on signs -- she looks at me and comments about the class or classmates to me, laughs with me, makes eye contact. She even mimicked my demeanor in support of logic and science in a couple comments to me (which rather took me aback).

Because of this, I'm pretty certain that if I did ask her out she wouldn't reject me, so I don't think there's a fear of rejection playing in here.. but I can't muster up the courage to ask her out. The last number I asked for took months, and I've just realized today that this new girl is most likely interested in me, as I am with her.

It's almost like I can't do it when I'm surrounded by people, like I feel all awkward doing the deed in front of 30+ other people. In fact, to get the last number I had to catch the girl when she was walking alone in the hallway... but this is pretty much impossible seeing as the only time I see this girl is at this particular high-capacity class. Suggestions? Perhaps even simply talking about this might relieve some of the stress associated with this despicable man-duty of asking-out-ness...

What if you got with her in private instead in front of 30+ people?

Also, does she like cats coz that's the most important thing!!

Sorry just can't help but react to that cute meezer in the avie of yours....

Anyway, I would just start off slow or not rush into things before getting to know her well...that is if you haven't already.

I'd say that if she's actually interested in you, you've already got most of the work done for you. My single biggest problem with approaching girls has always been that none ever *are* interested, and in fact often display signals to quite the opposite effect if I'm in a situation where they can't ignore me completely.

You always *could* play coy and start making a few obvious but not completely direct signs of interest yourself and see if she makes a move.

Ah I know how you feel, I've been there. Just wait till everyones leaving maybe and then ask for her number as shes packing her things? Good luck.

What about next time she's talking to you, tell her that you've been meaning to give her your info so that maybe you guys can get together outside of class and talk more? Then give her a piece of paper with your email address and phone number and let her call you. That way you've made the first move but then it's up to her on what she wants to do with the information. Good luck

Haha, I lurvs mah kitteh MissConstrue

--Bob, the coy thing rarely works for me. Indeed, I am coy pretty much most of the time as is. A lot of girls probably find it cute and all, but the social burden is on me to do something about it, since I'm the male.

--Dustin, the only problem is everyone files out of the class rather slowly, albeit their attention probably wouldn't be focused on two people talking.. Perhaps I should spark up a mini-convo with her as class ends, and hopefully I can keep some small talk up long enough for most of the people to leave, or something like that.

--Interesting idea Celtic... I'll have to consider it. At least then I don't have to worry about the "I got a number, now when the hell do I use it" problem.

Thanks for the suggestions all!

*psst* Make sure to post an update

I will, but this thread will probably be buried by then, since I won't see her for like two weeks. (spring break)

do you hang out after school? if so, try asking her about her love life, if theres someone she likes or if shes interested in a boyfriend? the worst thing that can happen is that she likes someone which, although it would most likely HURT, would save you being rejected... (also, if she is looking for a boyfriend and doesnt like some1 in particular, you could subtly say that your free )

it should be said that i have ZERO experience in this, so dont take my word for it...

I kinda know how you feel, I too have got a problem with asking a girl out.

I'm not sure if this will be good advice, but perhaps you could ask her to meet you outside the class somewhere at a certain time, and then ask for her number.

This sounds a bit silly, but I played out the situation in my mind a few times...

Here is the BEST idea I thought of...

On a 3 X 5 index card, I would draw a simple picture of a cat, or a little cat sticker ( a little thing)....

Also write your cell or phone number, and best time to call AND/OR your email address

also a short note, saying:
"therapist coupon" [humor] -or
"in case you need help with homework, call/contact me by the following..." [better].

This way, you give her a way to talk to you more private and there is no pressure because she can decide when to call or email you, thus in a way building on that relationship you both already have together... she will contact you but odds are that if you gave her that card with the info to her on wednesday, she will likely call you thursday evening...

All you got to do is pass her that 3X5 index card.... you get an opportunity to communicate with her one on one while lowering the distractions and stresses of courage while also building your confidence... like the saying, "there is more than one way to skin a cat."

If you have a test coming up you could always invite her to study with someplace neutral, like the library. That way you can study for her test and study up on her a little bit since most college students seem to enjoy talking about themselves than schoolwork.