16 Apr 2013, 1:34 am
auntblabby
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16 Apr 2013, 4:13 am
hiya dan 
welcome to our cool club 
i understand what it feels like to be stuck in the social wilderness, i've lived there for most of my 5 decades on this effed-up world. i was fully prepared to die a hermit until i became the living example of john lennon's warning that "life is what happens when you've made other plans." IOW out of the blue, another wrong planet member took an extreme interest in me, something totally unexpected for sure. i am not most women's idea of attractive, either, so this happening to me is akin to winning the lottery, but after many decades it finally happened. when i was your age, when somebody told me i might have to wait until i was an old man before i might find somebody right for me, i angrily spat out "i'd rather die than wait that effing long! what effing use is an old man to anybody?" i would indeed have preferred that god take me out than have to wait that long, but god had other ideas for me, he correctly deduced that i was totally immature and not good mate material for anybody for that reason, but that also i had it in me to eventually learn to be a compassionate human being, and that if i wanted a friend i had to first learn how to BE a friend. i was friendless and achingly lonely until i learned this. you are young, you have many years on me, years that you can put to infinitely better use by determining NOW to be a friend to anybody who needs one, and when you do this, the mate you need will appear. it took me too damned long [4 decades] to learn this but you can be smarter than me and do it NOW, and not wait 4 decades for the lightbulb to light up in your brain. i KNOW your luck will be better than mine, if you put this into practice ASAP.
16 Apr 2013, 5:28 am
16 Apr 2013, 6:53 am
16 Apr 2013, 7:19 am
welcome to our cool club i understand what it feels like to be stuck in the social wilderness, i've lived there for most of my 5 decades on this effed-up world. i was fully prepared to die a hermit until i became the living example of john lennon's warning that "life is what happens when you've made other plans." IOW out of the blue, another wrong planet member took an extreme interest in me, something totally unexpected for sure. i am not most women's idea of attractive, either, so this happening to me is akin to winning the lottery, but after many decades it finally happened. when i was your age, when somebody told me i might have to wait until i was an old man before i might find somebody right for me, i angrily spat out "i'd rather die than wait that effing long! what effing use is an old man to anybody?" i would indeed have preferred that god take me out than have to wait that long, but god had other ideas for me, he correctly deduced that i was totally immature and not good mate material for anybody for that reason, but that also i had it in me to eventually learn to be a compassionate human being, and that if i wanted a friend i had to first learn how to BE a friend. i was friendless and achingly lonely until i learned this. you are young, you have many years on me, years that you can put to infinitely better use by determining NOW to be a friend to anybody who needs one, and when you do this, the mate you need will appear. it took me too damned long [4 decades] to learn this but you can be smarter than me and do it NOW, and not wait 4 decades for the lightbulb to light up in your brain. i KNOW your luck will be better than mine, if you put this into practice ASAP.
very good advice, and I am happy to hear the good news
16 Apr 2013, 9:13 am
16 Apr 2013, 4:45 pm
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16 Apr 2013, 4:58 pm
I'm so happy for you both. Seeing this was a bright spot in my day, auntblabby. Congrats and good luck.
thank you BR
but i don't think the OP is especially happy to hear about "other forms of love besides romantic love," when his young man hormones are a'ragin' - he needs a mate, a proper mate. i know how that feels as i was in the same boat when i was young and horny and acutely lonely all at once. that is a tough row to hoe. when i was that age i could not see the same advice i gave to the OP who may also be vision-impaired about such, as hormones seem to block lots of things like that.
16 Apr 2013, 5:03 pm
16 Apr 2013, 5:07 pm
I'm so happy for you both. Seeing this was a bright spot in my day, auntblabby. Congrats and good luck.
thank you BR
but i don't think the OP is especially happy to hear about "other forms of love besides romantic love," when his young man hormones are a'ragin' - he needs a mate, a proper mate. i know how that feels as i was in the same boat when i was young and horny and acutely lonely all at once. that is a tough row to hoe. when i was that age i could not see the same advice i gave to the OP who may also be vision-impaired about such, as hormones seem to block lots of things like that.I see. Well, what the heck do I know? lol
Now that I'm thinking about it, perhaps you would be better qualified to give the young man in the "Prom" thread some advice, as opposed to what I just said to him, which I doubt is what he wants/needs to hear right now, either.
16 Apr 2013, 5:15 pm
16 Apr 2013, 5:35 pm
Don't you enjoy anything at all besides being in love?
My life so far has been loveless, but does that mean my life is pointless? Hell no! There are plenty of other things that make life worth living for and very enjoyable.
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16 Apr 2013, 5:37 pm
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