Prom date

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So through a slightly complicated series of events I got a got a date to prom with a girl. Basically she was part of the group of students responsible for planning the event and wanted to go, but she didn't want to be the only one without a date. That's where I came in, I agreed to meet her and she was pretty cool so I asked her and she said yes. After spending more time with her I developed a crush on her. As of right now we are in agreement that we are just going to prom and not dating, but I would like to change that. I'm considering doing something after prom assuming nothing goes wrong. That's where I am stuck, I don't know what "something" is.

<sigh> I'd love to help here but there's a bit of a disconnect due to a) the age difference and b) I'm not in the USA. Just make sure that your date isn't called Carrie and you'll do just fine.

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It would make sense, etiquette-wise, to meet again informally after a big gala like that. Brunch? I don't know. It's the same sort of thing as a note to the hostess of a party. I think if you ask around, you'll find at least one thing you could (and maybe should) do together without 'dating.'

At the end of that, maybe you could say something like, "You know, I enjoy your company. Do you think we could <verb? hang out?>"

Or maybe just the usual ploy about the "must see" movie, and if she reacts positively, you say you'd like to see it, and she says so would she, and you say would you like to go with me?

Disclaimer: I haven't dated in decades. Double-check with your on age group.

Oh Lord!! I'm 55 and you're 63, can't we find anyone younger to help out here?

Sorry, Eccles. While I certainly can't speak for everyone on the site, I'm 23 and just as stumped as you two. ^_^;

Still, I'll offer my opinion on the matter all the same, I suppose. It can't hurt, and it might help, eh? I'm personally about as subtle as a giant, radioactive brick, so I'd likely ask her if she'd reconsider the agreement directly. However, if that really isn't an appealing or appropriate option, I'd do something similar to what Claradoon suggested... As to what you two could actually do, Taybot, something both she and you enjoy would most probably be the best choice.

Here's to hoping your date goes well, and I wish you luck. d=(^3^)=b

The thing is that I'm pretty sure she will have the usual feeling of not wanting the glorious evening to end - all dressed up and gorgeous, everybody kind of on cloud nine. So give time to recover from the hangover and then offer one more small dose of the glorious evening. Only during the day. I think she might be in the "It ended!" frame of mind.

Give her a chance to dress up a bit, and you wear something nice too. A soft landing from a prom.

We went to Denny's after my JR prom then hung out with friends.

I would see about an after party.

Just ask her out afterwards to some dinner, lunch or something. An event works too if you know anything about her interests. If the prom goes well I can't imagine her not feeling more comfortable with you.

Unless she really isn't attracted to you and this to her is really just an informal thing and just for the sake of having a date then you should be fine to see if it can go farther after. You wouldn't know for sure until you try.