How to know when a girl is flirting with you?

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ThinkingMonkey
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29 Jan 2014, 7:15 pm

How to know when a girl is flirting with you?

This probably would help all the guys here as well.

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29 Jan 2014, 10:02 pm

Anyone? Anyone at all?

OP is not alone in his wondering.

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29 Jan 2014, 10:11 pm

oh man when i saw a reply i thought someone replied with answer. i too desire to know this

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29 Jan 2014, 10:20 pm

A girl told me I had a nice butt once. I said "Thanks", and then two days later realized she was probably trying to flirt with me.

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29 Jan 2014, 10:33 pm

If they're shy but want you to know they like you, usually they'll just smile very obviously. Otherwise they'll compliment you, accompanied (optionally) by some light touching.

The bigger question is: how can you tell when a girl is flirting back? The implication of the original question seems like guys are willing to settle for whoever they think is interested in them.

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29 Jan 2014, 10:40 pm

onewithstrange wrote:

pretty much

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29 Jan 2014, 10:57 pm

When you are not paying attention to them and they come towards you and start acting all friendly and saying how cute you are etc and also if they grab you hand and put it down their shirt!.

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29 Jan 2014, 10:58 pm

onewithstrange wrote:

The question has no implications.

It is meant to know both : "Is someone is flirting with me?" & "Is she flirting back?"

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29 Jan 2014, 11:02 pm

AspieOtaku wrote:

When you are not paying attention to them and they come towards you and start acting all friendly and saying how cute you are etc and also if they grab you hand and put it down their shirt!.

As for the second point, something that obvious did happen to me. Unfortunately I was petrified and did not know how to react! Just went along with what ever was happening and did not do anything about it afterwards either.

And Thanks! for the tip.

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29 Jan 2014, 11:33 pm

I don't know how to explain it, but I can tell. Flirting via skype was how I not only cheered up what would be my now ex-girlfriend, but made her day much better.

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30 Jan 2014, 10:05 am

I think it differs per culture.

Here in the Netherlands I've noticed you can tell whether someone is flirting with you if they return you with a compliment.

As in;
No flirt
Me: "You are looking lovely today".
Her: "Thanks, trying my best"

Yes flirt:
Me: "You are looking lovely today".
Her: "Why thank you, you are looking handsome today too".

Secondly, since people are pretty blunt and honest here, ladies generally won't be "fake nice enough" to make you have to guess if they perhaps meant it in a flirting way.

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30 Jan 2014, 5:34 pm

They give THE LOOK:

Reading the mind eye test:
http://www.questionwritertracker.com/qu ... K3TKB.html

learn it, breath it, know it.

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30 Jan 2014, 6:30 pm

Stalk wrote:

They give THE LOOK:

Reading the mind eye test:
http://www.questionwritertracker.com/qu ... K3TKB.html

learn it, breath it, know it.

Ehhhhh...I have a problem with eye contact. It makes me uncomfortable unless I know the person I'm talking to very well, so this really doesn't do me a lot of good. I don't how much is too much, so I usually settle with not enough.

Pictures are one thing. Actually reading it in other people is something else entirely.

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30 Jan 2014, 8:29 pm

Can I just say, I don't think I would ever flirt with someone who didn't make eye contact with me. I'd assume they were not interested so there's no point. Therefore, looking at a female you are interested in is a good idea, even if it makes you uncomfortable, IMO.

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30 Jan 2014, 9:57 pm

The only flirty signs I notice are when a woman (other than my wife) smiles, makes eye contact, stands close, slightly sways or twists her body back and forth, plays with her hair, licks her lips while looking at mine, and inhales deeply. But I've noticed this happening less and less as the years go by ...

And when it does happen, the woman is usually trying get me to buy something from her or for her, give or loan money to her, or perform a favor for her that does not involve anything pleasant for me.

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30 Jan 2014, 10:26 pm

Deuterium wrote:

A girl told me I had a nice butt once. I said "Thanks", and then two days later realized she was probably trying to flirt with me.

Even if a guy immediately realizes that a woman is flirting this way, what's an acceptable response? No matter what I try, and no matter how interested the woman seems to be, I always seem to come off as creepy.

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