So there's this guy....

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Yeah... You know what I'm talkin' about.
So there's this guy in my class who I've known for quite a while now [for about 7 months]. And he's smart, witty, awesome... So we have a lot in common. He knows about me and I know about him. And he knows how I'd react to certain stuff. Like he [unintentionally, probably] teased my "obsession" and saw that it's something very, VERY dear to me and has kept me alive. I was pretty upset for a while but I was surprised to find myself actually forgiving him. And I start to think "Well, there's something going on with this guy." and talk to him more. I don't want to use the exact word but, I found him really interesting and, well, attractive. But after I while, I felt like he was using me. He was using my belongings [my pens, my phone, my iPad etc.] without even bothering to get a permission and saying.. pretty mean stuff to me. I don't know if this is some kind of way of just messing with me or actually insulting me. But then he jokes and talks and, even when it seems like he's ignoring me, I actually feel better. But then I go like this 'cause I realise, horrified, that IT's actually happening. The thing that I was so afraid of for all these years.
Well, I hope he's trying to give me a sign because that's the only thing I can do. I can't tell if he's dropping hints or not so I hope he does but I just don't get them. I know that this is very ridiculous but I finally had the courage to say this out loud somewhere, filled with very awesome people who I can trust. I don't like talking about these stuff too but I really want to hear your opinion about this. Thanks for reading, guys.

Of, well, being attracted and bonded to someone. The L word.
When I was a little girl, I decided that I just didn't want to be attracted to anyone and go through the "pain" I always heard about. But apparently, I am now.

Just a quick thought: If you're nervous about the commitment, it might help to consider that you are simply attracted to him and not quite "bonded," as you put it... To put it simply, it's currently just a crush. For things to evolve past that can take plenty of time, and probably won't change immediately even if you two choose to get together... You would certainly have enough time to sort it out in your head, I'm sure.

I really hope this helps, and I wish you the best of luck in your endeavors.

I'm going to be brutally honest. It seems like he does not value you. "He's just not that into you."

He might be flirting but that doesn't mean that he likes you. He might pick up on the fact that you are attracted to him and is using your feelings for him to his advantage.

Even if does have feelings for you, it doesn't sound like he treats you right (meaning he might be attracted to you but will continue to disrespect you because that is just in his nature).