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31 Mar 2014, 2:28 pm

The kind who are ungenuine, yet fully believe they are genuine. The kind who doesn't take no for an answer when rejecting them, and the kind who replies to lots of threads you've posted on, and sometimes uploads photos of themselves on there (straight after you've posted) in the hopes you'll be drawn back to them.

The kind who says they don't want anything from you, yet keep on pestering you regardless. They pop up every now and then on the forum hoping they'll get you back, despite very clearly telling them no. Every now and then you get a PM from them, or an e-mail.

How do you get rid of them? No matter how many times you say no. No matter how many times you tell them very clearly that you don't want them around, and telling them plainly how much you *really* dislike them.

Also, since this person is on here (his nickname starting with 'A'), feel free to state and explain why what he does is very wrong, disrespectful, intrusive, and very selfish.

I am one of few people who clearly lets people know what I think of them, so there has not been a lack of clear communication on my part.

Thank you.


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31 Mar 2014, 2:39 pm

What have you told this person so far exactly in how you want them to leave you alone?

Report them to a moderator if they're still not listening to you when you are being very clear.

Shaming them though isn't very fair. They probably don't realise their behaviour is not acceptable.


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31 Mar 2014, 2:47 pm

Lol, wow, that guy even registered to catch you in the members only and adult section?



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31 Mar 2014, 2:51 pm

Shaming them isn't very fair? Oh, excuse me.

It doesn't matter that he's being intrusive and won't leave me alone, and outright disrespects my right to be left alone. Oh, but shaming him about it isn't very fair. Get real.

What have I told him? I've told him in plain English something along the lines of, "Leave me alone. I want nothing to do with you. Get lost"

The last message he put about me on here made out ME to be the problem with not accepting what HE wants. He absolutely refuses to believe that he is in the wrong, and that he should leave me alone.

ALL I WANT IS TO BE LEFT ALONE.

Still, I think I will report him. I'm absolutely fed up with his behaviour. He should grow up and start facing the fact that I hate him and that it will NEVER work out.


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31 Mar 2014, 2:52 pm

smudge wrote:
How do you get rid of them? No matter how many times you say no. No matter how many times you tell them very clearly that you don't want them around, and telling them plainly how much you *really* dislike them.
You report their behaviour in private to a moderator, not invite other WP members to pile in and have a go on your behalf.
What happens off WP is outside our control and if their activity causes concern there, you should speak to the police about it.


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