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[Ladies are free to reply but this thread is supposed to be in the Men's forum.]

I've been having a job crisis (not paying much, company collapsing) lately and I am on a quest of job search, meanwhile I've removed my okc and stopped all my dating inactivity in every way for months (even before removing okc).
I see it is pointless to keep doing it for a good reason:

http://theeconomiccollapseblog.com/arch ... -would-not

http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/1631289

And people tend to be more ideal in surveys too.

And of course, job is more important, one can survive without a gf but not without a paying job!
So my priority in life had been totally switched and I will totally neglect dating
for now.

This thread isn't about women tho, it's about men.

What makes me wondering tho is some of the 30+ jobless men here who are trying to date and make accounts on dating sites, especially those who claim wanting something serious or even marriage: Seriously, what are you expecting to accomplish? What are the chances? Fact is that 75% won't date you and most of the rest are probably doubtful. Stay at home dads don't exceed the 1% in the most developed countries. So again, I don't understand why you keep trying? Rationally, the time for seeking date is better to be used for job search.

well for me i'm way more likely to find a gf then job. I don't actively seek either anymore.

People in general try to look for what they enjoy rather than responsability. Its all in how we reach that goal. For you boo its by being prepared.

I wouldn't date an unemployed woman.

You are quite right OP.

Money > girls

After you have money...

Girls > money

It's a trap .

I'd date you, Boo, but I fear I'm in the "probably doubtful" category.

I think similarly to you, Boo. I think you should be able to afford to take someone on a date (or at least pay your own way). How can you date with no income? I lost my job about a month ago, and I reluctantly stopped putting a lot of effort into dating. It is a turn off to women to be unemployed, and I have more important things to spend money on (food, bills, etc.).

I do have a profile on a dating site, but my intentions are significantly scaled back. So is my level of activity. Right now I am just looking for friends. Friends means that we converse, maybe we hang out, but no pressure, and no intentions of getting into anything serious. I have to get my life together before I am available for a serious relationship. I am too proud to live off of my significant other, even if a woman loved me enough to offer to help me financially.

I've worked and saved ever since I was 16 and I'd like to think I have somewhat of a career and I'm not exactly successful in dating.. it's a stretch to blame my job, but I do work 55 hours a week and I hardly have time for dating.

And having said that, one of my good friends has almost never held down a job, has plenty of debts and usually is seeing 3 girls at a time. I guess it's different in your 30s. I hope it is, anyway.

What about half time job or less than half time job?

Dealbreaker to those women too?

Voluntary job, dealbreaker too?

Badly paid job?

Being serious: if that were an option - you met someone who wanted you to stay at home and look after the house while she worked, would you consider it or do you think it's a woman's job to look after the house and the man should go out and earn money?

I could not financially support an unemployed man. Heck I can barely support myself. So an unemployed man would not be marriageable material for me, and that is what I am looking for. I don't waste my time with men I already know I won't marry.

And if anyone is going to stay home with the kids some day is is going to be the one who has studied child development, nutrition, child psychology, and disabilities since she was 9 years old. Heck the job I have involves changing diapers, fixing meals, and calming tantrums. Good preparation for the job I want.