I'm a little sad.

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Can anyone either date me or find me a date? 'Cause I suck at that, yet desperately want to date another Aspie. If you need more info on me, see my Aspie Affection profile.

Hi. I'd love to give you some pointers. It could be that your profile just needs a little touching up. Do you have a link to it?

Kind regards - D

Maybe your problem is that you're "desperately" seeking someone to date?

I don't think desperation is well translated to others

Good luck on your search.

No offence but getting people to feel sorry for you is a bad way to find a date. It's a massive put off to a lot of people.

you've described yourself as depressed and desperate and nothing more.. with all due respect sir that's the exact opposite way to meet women talk about yourself, make people laugh, be awesome

also - aspie affection is a broken site with no active users..

Thanks for your profile link. I imagine that you'd be able to attract more interest if you could give people a little more information. There're so many, "I'll tell you later" replies on it. If I were looking for someone, I might actually want to know about things like drinking habits, smoking, exercise. They're things that help you work out whether your lifestyles are compatible. Similarly, you should list at least a few things that you like - no matter how unusual or potentially geeky you think they are, I promise you that someone else will like them too. It's best to be honest up front. It gives someone a better idea of whether they think they'll like you, and saves you some back and forth in messages that might end up leading nowhere.

As for your intro paragraph. I think you should be a bit more specific about what you're looking for in a partner. Is your only condition really that they have Asperger's? I'd suggest that you probably avoid calling people paranoid. It makes you come across as a little intolerant. I'd suggest cutting that whole sentence out. You're on an Aspie dating site for a reason; if you're making a profile, do people not immediately assume that you have Asperger's? Perhaps you could instead explain a little about why you want to date a fellow Aspie, rather than any other type of person. As for your edit, I think that it should say something more along the lines of "I am only interested in dating a fellow virgin." If you lose your virginity at any point you can just delete it.

Did that make any sense to you? I hope it was helpful. Please don't construe any of this a criticism. I'm not at my most socially sensitive until I've had my coffee.

Good luck in your search.

I think you've made a vast improvement already. It will be easier for people to decide whether or not they've got a compatible lifestyle to yours now. You seem a little down on yourself though. You could try putting the word, "inhuman" in quotation marks. You're clearly not literally inhuman, so if you feel the need to use that word, I suggest lightening it up a bit. Do you really feel that you wish to date someone primarily in order to commiserate with them? That's rather depressing. Even if that's how you feel, I might suggest using terms like "mutual understand" and "shared sympathy." I have a feeling you'll likely attract a better class of potential partners that way. But those are just my thoughts. Again, good luck.