Hubby doesn't understand...

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I try to bring up the subject of my possible AS with my husband (I would diagnose my husband as an NT). He doesn't want to listen probably because he doesn't want to hear of his wife having anything else wrong with her. But my husband seems to pick out things. For example he once prayed "Lord, please make my wife more social" and then there was the time when he said "you need to watch it with the bird stuff, it doesn't bore me but it has the power to bore other people"

Any good ways to make my husband understand?

I know, I know, I know!! ! <Lab Pet raises hand> Show him this.......

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Looks like he doesn't want to understand. You can't change that. Sorry.

To elaborate, if I say that I obsess, he says there is nothing wrong with really liking something a lot. He in fact doesn't like that something like that could be part of a syndrome. If I bring up the social part, he will say that I can get better at it.

Though honestly I don't know what making him understand would accomplish. He loves me a whole lot, putting another label on me would not change that.

He kind of sounds like my boyfriend.. I asked my guy to be open minded about it, even if he didn't think it was true. I presented him with a lot of evidence and odd behaviors from my childhood (that I've just been starting to realize, myself, as signs of AS) some things he thinks I can change, I tell him I can try to adapt but it's something I need his help with. Like in social situations.. We recently had a whole weekend of social events for a group he's involved in, and he's usually really bad at introducing me to people, which leaves me standing there even more awkward than I need to be and already am. So I asked him to introduce me to people, and he did, and we got through the weekend with me only breaking down crying twice. BUT- they weren't bad meltdowns, I got through them, we sat in the car for twenty minutes until I collected myself, then we went back at it together. So it's really something he could help you with, to make it easier on you, but you also need to compromise too... Your husband desires you to be at his side socializing, (is what I'm taking from this) so tell him you will, but he needs to help you with it, it's a team effort. I hope he can be open minded about it for you, it's the healthiest thing for both of you if you're working together.

I hate to say it but... anyone who is stupid enough to think talking to a magic man in the sky is going to cure his wife of 'anti-sociability' - as if not being a mouth-breathing extrovert twit is some kind of communicable disease - probably isn't going to understand the nuances of Asperger's syndrome.