Rightly scared or paranoid?

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Okay...

Through one of my friends at my community college, I friended a female student on Facebook. Very shortly after that, I get a request from one of her friends, who I'll call Jane Doe, to protect her identity. Anyway, this afternoon after I came back from shopping, I got on my computer for the first time today, and I see that Jane has sent me messages. She's dying to chat with me. I didn't think much of it, so I shut my computer down and popped in my just-purchased Criterion DVD of David Fincher's The Game. Now, I'm sitting on my bed, getting the creeps from Jane Doe. Maybe I'm not giving her the benefit of the doubt. Perhaps I empathized with Michael Douglas's character in the movie a little too much. In that case, I shouldn't watch psychological thrillers like that before even considering talking to a girl I don't know.

Yeah, but when she posts a message like "can we chat connor", I think I have my reasons to be creeped out.

Further proof, if proof be need be, that Facebook is the work of The Evil One.

More relevantly, why on earth has this made you paranoid?

A friend of a friend 'friended' you.

Since then, you have received a couple of messages and a chat request, none of which were even odd in tone or content, let alone sinister.

She may be one of those unfortunate individuals whose entire life is spent on Facebook, and who is used to rapid-fire message exchanges, and is now sat at home feeling sad and puzzled that you haven't replied to the several times she's tried to contact you --, her new friend! -- without response,

Lead at a pace you are comfortable with.

Drop her an email explaining that you don't use FB much but will drop her a line next time you're on.

Then do it, 24 hours later.

She'll either be understanding and respect your pace (and perhaps a good friendship will arise).

Or shell just forget about you, like internet randoms often do.

Or she'll go completely mad and email you upto 1,800 times a day demanding to know what you're wearing,

(I don't think anything remotely like that last option is going to happen btw)

In other words, you are BEING COMPLETELY PARANOID.

SORT IT OUT!

Trust your senses.

Definitely paranoid.

Okay, I started a conversation with her on Facebook last night. Even though we literally just met, she already started asking me what my pet name was going to be, whether or not we're going to be a couple, if she could see some photos of me, the works. She seems to be in a hurry. I have a bad feeling about this.

Oo-er. Crikey. She does sound a little ... highly-strung.

In your position, I would
1) Directly tell her to cool it because she's freaking you out, with a view to eventually blocking her if she carries on
2) Pretend that you think it's all a big joke and give appropriate 'comedy' answers to her questions, potentially blocking her if this enrages her
3) Take off and nuke her from orbit. And then block her.

Sounds like you've caught a live one.

I shall keep an eye on this thread for updates.

^^^ Good advice. Never trust anyone who has planned your life before even meeting you.

Well, I attempted unsuccessfully to post a picture but this will have to do:


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There.

This is really getting crazy. She's constantly messaging me on Facebook (she's always online), and insists I'm the love of her life when we've never met in person. I tell her that I'm busy, and she keeps messaging me anyway.

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Block her. She's one of those clingy people who fall in love with everybody who says hello to them. Tell her once that you aren't interested, firmly and politely and then if she keeps on you are going to have to be rude and mean about it because that may be the only way to get through to her. Blocking her is a good first step.

I swear that every damn time a girl introduces herself to me, they're up to no good.

For the record, this is Jane Doe, standing next to, of all people, Gary Sinise.

Sorry... How is this creepy again?
If you don't like her just tell her you're not interested.