Aspies married to Aspies?
I recently wrote an article about marriage, where one partner is "NT" and the other is "Aspie". One of my readers asked about information/facts/stats and tips for Aspies married to Aspies. I don't often hear about these types of marriages, nor how different or similar they are to other marriages. On the one hand, I would think it would be easier to relate to each other. On the other hand, I could also see how it could be challenging. What are your thoughts?
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I am interested to learn more about this as well out of pure curiosity. My partner used to be with an AS girl and said it didn't work out, but wouldn't delve into detail. Out of respect I will not ask him since my interest is for more academic type reasons then wanting to know all about his exes.
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My girlfriend is an Aspie & we have been living together a year & a half & would be married if it wouldn't screw up her SSI, food-stamps & Section 8. I think we relate to each other alot better than we could to NTs but we both have things besides Aspergers. It is changeling in some ways thou because neither of us is independent or great with necessary social stuff like shopping trips. The girlfreind I had before her was also an Aspie but we clashed alot because our personalities & way we were within a relationship were very different. I think an Aspie/Aspie marriage depends alot on the two people; how their Aspiergers limits them with functioning, how what strengths they have, what they each need from the relationship & each other, & each of their personalities.
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I was just recounting last night how contrary to what you might think, I find it VERY difficult to get along with male Aspies as friends because their interests always clash with mine. My Ex's best friend has Autism and she annoyed the heck out of me and I avoided her at all costs: I honestly don't see how I could possibly form a relationship with a Aspie. As I see it, the relationship would only if both partners had similar obsessive interests. Since mine are stereotypically male, that's not likely at all.
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Just joined to see if I can find out whether there is any information about a marriage of 2 (suspected) Aspies,,,,,
So we have been married 16yrs we have 3 fabulous kids (eldest has a AS; NOS diagnosis),but have had a rocky relationship. We have separated a number of times whilst being together and in fact are separated now but amicably. Although we have lots in common and both view each other as soul-mates our biggest problem is that we are at opposite end of the spectrum in terms of sex drive. This is complicated by my tendancy to paranoia, particularly when tired, and (I suspect) an Aspie inability to accept that the reason she is not sleeping with me must be because she is sleeping with someone else. Since we both believe that we both have Aspie tendencies I also realise that MrsMiggins (a nickname derived from the famous PieShop owner?!) has difficulty in rationalising how much of an issue this is for me.
We are both ridiculously fit and both represent GB Age-Group Triathlon.
That's probably enough as a first post!!
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I think how well you would get a long in this case, would still depend on what kind of personalities the two have, as in other relationships. A common neurology would mean that you would be able to understand / recognize each other easier, but there can still be clashes with difference of opinion / political alignment.
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Just joined to see if I can find out whether there is any information about a marriage of 2 (suspected) Aspies,,,,,
So we have been married 16yrs we have 3 fabulous kids (eldest has a AS; NOS diagnosis),but have had a rocky relationship. We have separated a number of times whilst being together and in fact are separated now but amicably. Although we have lots in common and both view each other as soul-mates our biggest problem is that we are at opposite end of the spectrum in terms of sex drive. This is complicated by my tendancy to paranoia, particularly when tired, and (I suspect) an Aspie inability to accept that the reason she is not sleeping with me must be because she is sleeping with someone else. Since we both believe that we both have Aspie tendencies I also realise that MrsMiggins (a nickname derived from the famous PieShop owner?!) has difficulty in rationalising how much of an issue this is for me.
We are both ridiculously fit and both represent GB Age-Group Triathlon.
That's probably enough as a first post!!
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My friend is an Aspie, and so am I. We do not get along at all - not even sure why I called him a friend but we've known each other 15 years. We're forever falling out. We argue over everything. We both share the same traits. So it's like a constant battle.
I'm not sure how two Aspies dating could work well together if they share the same traits. I'm just basing that of a so called "friendship" I had.
Although, if I met a girl who shared my interests and was an Aspie I'd be willing to try. I'm in a relationship though atm, we share nothing in common, she is NT. Things can get very tough between ASD + NT. ASD + ASD would likely be even more of a challenge.
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