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21 Apr 2014, 6:32 pm

I'm 15, and I don't date until college for religious reasons. Here they are:
Girl A: The imam's daughter, and I know the imam, and the girl is very religious, is quiet but nice but no-nonsense (or so it seems, I don't know her well), and she is 12. She's never been mean to me the times I've interacted with her, she just seemed nervous or at least uptight. She's beautiful, but in a way most people don't recognize.
Girl B: (for religious reasons, allowed) my cousin, on my dad's side, but my dad is divorced and I'm not that close to him, or at least it seems that way because he's out of town for now and I had a fight with him. She's quiet but kind and smart, and she's the only girl that understands me, even including my cousins on my mom's side. She's even given me advice. She says she's my 'abla' or "older sister" but that was a while ago and she'll probably change her mind when we're older and our age difference doesn't mean as much.



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21 Apr 2014, 6:54 pm

MonsterGuy wrote:
I'm 15, and I don't date until college for religious reasons. Here they are:
Girl A: The imam's daughter, and I know the imam, and the girl is very religious, is quiet but nice but no-nonsense (or so it seems, I don't know her well), and she is 12. She's never been mean to me the times I've interacted with her, she just seemed nervous or at least uptight. She's beautiful, but in a way most people don't recognize.

What does no-nonsense mean?
I don't get it, aren't you going to date only in college? Or are you already in college?



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21 Apr 2014, 9:14 pm

I would recommend you wait until you are old enough to date before you make a decision. Your personality and interests will probably change a little bit as you get older, and so will the girls' personalities and interests as they get older. Also, you might get to college and meet someone new.


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21 Apr 2014, 9:53 pm

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I would recommend you wait until you are old enough to date before you make a decision. Your personality and interests will probably change a little bit as you get older, and so will the girls' personalities and interests as they get older. Also, you might get to college and meet someone new.


Ditto.


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21 Apr 2014, 11:52 pm

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22 Apr 2014, 12:43 am

Why would your religion prohibit you from dating someone?



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22 Apr 2014, 1:55 am

Certainly not your cousin, unless you want your future kids to have genetic diseases.



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22 Apr 2014, 9:29 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Certainly not your cousin, unless you want your future kids to have genetic diseases.


Second that notion, and to it I add ...

At least in the USA, for the most part, it is considered "very strange" to be dating your cousin, it might even be considered incest.

When my wife and I wanted to get married in the Catholic Church, we each had to come up with a family tree and show that we were not related too close - I can't remember how far up. I have no clue how they could verify it.

I don't recall being asked that question when we went to the county courthouse to get the marriage license.



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22 Apr 2014, 1:07 pm

michael517 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Certainly not your cousin, unless you want your future kids to have genetic diseases.


Second that notion, and to it I add ...

At least in the USA, for the most part, it is considered "very strange" to be dating your cousin, it might even be considered incest.

When my wife and I wanted to get married in the Catholic Church, we each had to come up with a family tree and show that we were not related too close - I can't remember how far up. I have no clue how they could verify it.

I don't recall being asked that question when we went to the county courthouse to get the marriage license.


Cousin marriages exis in Muslim communities, I thought it was an Arab thing but the OP is Turk.

One of my female cousins of mother side proposed to me (and she lives in Sydney), I declined of course. I am not sure the Australian law even allows this if they find out.



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22 Apr 2014, 11:11 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
michael517 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Certainly not your cousin, unless you want your future kids to have genetic diseases.


Second that notion, and to it I add ...

At least in the USA, for the most part, it is considered "very strange" to be dating your cousin, it might even be considered incest.

When my wife and I wanted to get married in the Catholic Church, we each had to come up with a family tree and show that we were not related too close - I can't remember how far up. I have no clue how they could verify it.

I don't recall being asked that question when we went to the county courthouse to get the marriage license.


Cousin marriages exis in Muslim communities, I thought it was an Arab thing but the OP is Turk.

One of my female cousins of mother side proposed to me (and she lives in Sydney), I declined of course. I am not sure the Australian law even allows this if they find out.

So you cousin zoned her?.



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10 Jun 2014, 2:47 am

spongy wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
michael517 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Certainly not your cousin, unless you want your future kids to have genetic diseases.


Second that notion, and to it I add ...

At least in the USA, for the most part, it is considered "very strange" to be dating your cousin, it might even be considered incest.

When my wife and I wanted to get married in the Catholic Church, we each had to come up with a family tree and show that we were not related too close - I can't remember how far up. I have no clue how they could verify it.

I don't recall being asked that question when we went to the county courthouse to get the marriage license.


Cousin marriages exis in Muslim communities, I thought it was an Arab thing but the OP is Turk.

One of my female cousins of mother side proposed to me (and she lives in Sydney), I declined of course. I am not sure the Australian law even allows this if they find out.

So you cousin zoned her?.


:lol: Pretty much.