Is this normal?

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Society has made it clear that I have to find a woman and that I have to get married and reproduce. I have tried this many times at local nightclubs in the hills area and have been unsuccesful (although I tell people otherwise, like the time I said I had sex 3 times with different girls one new years eve )

But the fact is, I dont really like women in that way. I find them hard to connect with, they seem more like mother figures to me. I really don't have to urge to get a boner, slap her titties around stick it inside her and pee.

I don't think I am gay, but I do admire a number of male celebrities such as George Michael, Ian Thorpe (he was so determined, he is an inspiration) and Aaron Hamill is my favourite Australian Footballer - but every one is telling me I am gay.

Is it normal for us aspies to feel this way? I don't know what I am supposed to be thinking. There is a male macho culture where you have to root around, pick up women and the like to be seen as a decent person, why can't they accept us for who we are?

It means your homersexual matey

I think not. I think many aspies here can relate.

It doesn't mean you're gay (*looks at XOnedoingtheSlappingX*), it's just that you find them hard to relate to. Now, if you were homosexual, you would say "I feel a bigger emotional connection to men more than I do with women" or something like that. In truth, I haven't met someone who is gay, so my statement may be false and/or inaccurate.

Are you sexually attracted to women? You sound somewhat asexual.

Sounds like you see women as people rather than playthings.

Good for you!

You got banned. I guess you must be gay then.

Even if banned... sounds more like asexuality than homosexuality. And I know about them.

I, personally, prefer men; relate better to them and feel atraction to them... but most of the time is not for a sexual contact, but for "partnership" and touch.

I can communicate with women but don't feel the physical impulse to be near to them.

For me it's not an issue of sex, but of ^"Partnership and touch". I'm not sure if I'm more pansexual or asexual, although I'm pretty sure the latter indicates a complete lack of a sex drive, whereas I'm more of just ambiguous to the sex of my potential partners - I do have something of a sex drive (But I'll deal with that if it gets there).

Believe it or not, I do understand him.

Even though he got banned, I think he has some sense and I really do believe what he was saying.

However, I know a certain someone here is keeping quiet about this. I wonder, has he not understood what I had said in the past?

Ya, its not sex for me, as sex is just a part of it. If all you did was think of sex then gay or not, all you want is 'sex' and the relationship doesn't really matter.

My NT friend said to me "man, all I want is someone to take care of me and thats it" - in other words, he said he is "settling." Hopefully thats not what they all do but with divorce rates, it seems that even professional NT lovers rarely get it right. At least they bang and create off spring the rest of us have to feed

Sex is just so personal and intimate that's it's hard for me to do without a preexisting feeling of closeness to the person, and is driven by the desire to accent that closeness. In general, this requires knowing the person fairly well, though someone who is unusually attractive (and at least speciously pleasant) can speed the process up. There are rare moments when I'm in the frank mood for sex in general, but barring an unusual set of circumstances, nothing comes of it (no pun intended). I've never had a one night stand, and I doubt I ever will.

I'm quite the opposite. To me, sex is just an act of two or more humans mating. You might have noticed my rather objective, scientific-sounding definition. That's because I see no connection between sex and emotions (other than either enjoyment or disappointment). It's a very direct, rational process for me: set up an appointment, come to the hotel room, do my thing, walk away smiling; quick, efficient, and drama-free.

I highly doubt this was real. He was just trying to f**k with people.

I think someone is trying to be very quiet about this issue.

I sent him a private message and commend him for understanding trolls, not about the fact that he wanted to ban Graelwyn and he still got banned!

Graelwyn should not be banned. She is great and a valuable asset to this forum!