First meltdown with new partner

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So, last night when I was making dinner I found out my roommates had used all my organic butter again, without asking or letting me know it was out. They do this all the time, and I've asked them not to, or to at least replace it. (They have plenty of butter, but it's not organic.)

By the time my girlfriend came over I was still trying to calm down, and she was very understanding (She works in an early intervention preschool.) I still feel weird about having my meltdown, and I was wondering what strategies you guys use to calm down, or to expidite the process.

I either run with it to burn out if non violent and if violent and still conscious i apply weights to force the excess strength to burn out faster and maybe exercise. I also listen to metal generally really powerful rough metal. Like Amon AMarth or some power metal such as Manowar/Hammerfall/Dream evil.

Anime can help me as well as can games. Esessentially i either try to burn it out or i try to suppress it to deal..

But yeah not fun or easy..My sister after a brief one her last visit(i regained control after threatening her in a few seconds) told our parents "SEE IF I ACT OUT LIKE THAT YOU YELL AT ME" nNot realizing it was A under control B i AM an adult not much they CAN do anymore and C even when they DID try something it just made matters worse...

So yeah..I follow my obsessions and/ore burn it out if agressive. If the shut off type..Where i am nonverbal and unable to speak right....Might even make animal sounds isntead and all that..Then i isolate until i feel i can even briefly be around people..Generally hold a stuffed animal as well LOL.youtube.com/watch?v=CRfv5a9QFu8

It is kind of a big deal. It's your stuff, you've made a request before, etc.

Now, that being said, kind of take the attitude that you have a business running with all kinds of problems, that you're a political activist in Egypt at risk of being arrested---that is, that you have bigger fish to fry and that it's kind of beneath you to deal with it. Maybe just the first roommate you see, _____ , we need to talk when you get a chance, I just need to know, is this continue to be a problem. Don't cushion the blow, but don't come on like Attila the Hun either, just be medium. And almost the briefer, the better, as if you're have preoccupied. And as a fallback position, figure out something of comparative value, okay, I'm going to start borrowing that, I'm just letting you know in advance, said with a light touch and a little sense of humor in the background, as if you don't particularly care one way or the other.

This may sound gross, but maybe you could make a point to your roommates not to use your butter, by licking the top of it in front of all of them so they're too grossed out to touch it. Why didn't I think of this at college? Or maybe (again, in front of them) you could prod it with your fingers until it goes all sludgy.

A few hours in the fridge, and I'd consider the germs mostly neutralized and use the butter anyway. Besides, it builds the immune system. That's why so many kids today have peanut butter allergies, they are overly protected by their parents (probably not scientifically true, but it allows me to get on my pulpit).

Ah, but that is how *you* think. Most people don't analyse it and instead would just go, "Eww, germs".

ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm yep that would do it for me >.<
I'd replace stuff I use though.