Are you embarrassed about your type?

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I tend to like bigger girls and I'm embarrassed about that. I'm also embarrassed about liking girls in the first place.

Yes & no.

I'm not embarrassed to like the type of guys I'm attracted to, and while I care less and less what anyone else thinks I do still have a bit of apprehension/anxiety about being completely comfortably out to everyone as gay. So yeah, there's the gay thing. Fortunately I don't look or act "gay," so it's not obvious to people.. and I'm still going through legal proceedings re: homophobia. (see lgbt forum) However, the whole legal thing hasn't made me more closeted, it's made me waaaaaay more comfortably out as I've had to come out to a bunch of old coworkers throughout this process and it's accelerated my learning that pretty much no one else cares these days save for the odd homophobe out.

I did hear a few homophobic comments this morning (not directed at me nor as a slur) and I just laughed. The guy figured I was laughing because he was being funny or I was agreeing with him, but really I was laughing at his perspective on things and wondering why he'd give a s**t about some gay radio dj talking about his boyfriend any more or less than a hetero dj talking about their partner. He was concerned about having to explain to his son one day wtf is going on if he heard that on the radio.. I kinda thought his son might not wonder so much about the relationship he heard about on the radio so much as why his dad seems to think he should have a negative opinion about it. Hopefully his son grows up with a more evolved crowd.

Back to the topic at hand.. the type of guys I like aren't an aesthetic group that are commonly found to be unattractive by some groups as is your situation with liking bigger girls. Not trying to be a jerk here in the least bit, just straight (gay? :p) forward about it. So, I don't have that mental battle to overcome in terms of anxieties about others judging something like that.

In the end, we all have our types, and who gives a flying f**k what anyone else thinks of what we as individuals like? What we happen to be attracted to isn't up for debate with anyone as to whether or not our type is attractive, as obviously they are attractive to us. Just stop caring what other people think and you can't be embarrassed in the least bit by it.

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I like to think that despite not having the 'perfect' life, that I've won the lottery. I'm not the richest, hottest, most successful person in the world.. I'm not even close, but compared to the majority of the world, I have a fantastic life with tons of opportunity. I live in Australia, a land of privilege, and I've never experienced the extreme hardships that many people have had to go through. I could bet that there are billions of people who would trade their life for mine - and no, that isn't arrogance, so please don't interpret it that way. I literally lucked out geographically when I was born.

I'm happy with whatever I am. Obviously I have my struggles, but it's more of an annoyance/frustration that I experience rather than embarrassment or sadness. If at times I try to convince myself that I've got something tough, I don't really find it difficult to lift myself up.

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I am no where near being ashamed of my type. I like nerdy girls and I don't care about body types.

Not even a little. I like nerdy younger women and I don't care who knows it!

No, I like feminine women with long black hair and pale skin and I'm not ashamed of it. Unfortunately, they rarely like me back but I digress.

Usually... association with most people is a recursive thing, associating with girls for me means playing with everyone elses' nuclear arsenals.

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Personally, I don't get at all embarrassed about it. Me and my friends respect each-other's preferences, more often than not we joke about it because we don't take it all that seriously though we just joke about everything. I mean what's there to be embarrassed about you can't help what, or who you like.

Types? Pfft.

Why limit yourself.

Life is too short to be worrying too much about what other people think.

I don't see the point. It's your right to like larger people if you want to.

I tend to be attracted to guys who aren't skinny, and I don't think its embarrassing at all.

Don't let any "bigger girls" that you date know that you are embarrassed to like them. Might not go down well.

Even better, stop feeling embarrassed about it. There's no point.