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23andaspie
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04 Jun 2014, 2:59 am

I've met a few Aspies who considered themselves asexual, yet hetero-romantic. I'm 100% certain, but I feel this describes me.

Is there anyone else out there who describes themselves this way?



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04 Jun 2014, 3:14 am

somewhat.

Aslong as the person is masculine and taller I would date them (I would date taller females, but prefer males because they tend to be masculine and easier to find). I just don't want to have sex.



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04 Jun 2014, 3:22 am

Xlexa wrote:
somewhat.

Aslong as the person is masculine and taller I would date them (I would date taller females, but prefer males because they tend to be masculine and easier to find). I just don't want to have sex.


So would you consider yourself asexual bi-romantic then?

How in the world do you find other asexuals? It seems like they are very rare.



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04 Jun 2014, 3:49 am

Maybe you could go onto AVEN. (It's an asexual forum).



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04 Jun 2014, 11:16 pm

Alyosha wrote:
Maybe you could go onto AVEN. (It's an asexual forum).


Thanks, I'll give it a look. Do you know of any dating sites that exist for asexuals? I found one for Aspies, but there wasn't much activity on that site compared to mainstream dating sites like OkCupid.



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05 Jun 2014, 2:06 am

23andaspie wrote:
Alyosha wrote:
Maybe you could go onto AVEN. (It's an asexual forum).


Thanks, I'll give it a look. Do you know of any dating sites that exist for asexuals? I found one for Aspies, but there wasn't much activity on that site compared to mainstream dating sites like OkCupid.
There's Ace-Book.net http://www.ace-book.net. I was a member there for awhile & it was the biggest asexual dating site at the time. I'm heteroromantic & somewhat on the asexuality spectrum but thought I was more at the time; I was somewhat antisexual then. I never got sexual attraction & wasn't really interested in the idea of having sex; I had a drive but took care of it myself. I was open to the idea of having sex within a relationship but it was more about being close & affectionate with my partner. I like sex OK but it's not something I really think about doing or desire unless I'm being physically affectionate or my girlfriend makes a move.


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05 Jun 2014, 2:23 am

I found this site on google: http://www.asexualitic.com/


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05 Jun 2014, 3:11 pm

I am most likely asexual and hetero-romantic.



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05 Jun 2014, 3:48 pm

It would be nice if I were just hetero-romantic

But this Sex thing keeps getting in the way :(



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06 Jun 2014, 3:19 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
It would be nice if I were just hetero-romantic

But this Sex thing keeps getting in the way :(

I don't know. Despite what most men think, most women do expect sexual intercourse (coitus) at some point and believe a man who has issues performing the said physical act ( not just unwilling, but unable ) as unworthy of love and affection. So goes the world. It's all about carnal crap.

The funny part is I'm probably demi-sexual, meaning I could have sex if I was able to fully connect with a woman on an emotional level. All the flirting games I'm supposed to go through and fear of rejection is what gets in the way of emotional connection. Being open scares most women off but being in the closet is too risky and anxiety provoking. I'm guessing there's actually a lot of women out there who are the same as me in terms of sex drive, but don't find it abnormal and don't have anxiety over it. They just don't share because it will scare off normal men who are hyper-sexual.



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06 Jun 2014, 3:46 pm

When I was in my 20's, I wasn't very choosy. I'm fortunate that I stayed disease-free.

By the time I reached my 30's, I used discretion much more.



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07 Jun 2014, 3:58 pm

I got an idea for all of you on this thread, GET WITH THE PROGRAM OF YOUR MIND AND SPIRIT. it tells all you need. end of discussion.


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