Second Guessing

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I recently gathered the mindset on giving up dating again. Cold turkey. I've been deleted all my OLDing accounts. I also put an ad up on Craigslist one time that drew the attention of many women. I just put my true honest thoughts on the ad a got replies. But this was a while ago.
About 1.5 weeks back I get an email from a woman saying she really liked my post. This was like a few days prior to me throwing it all away. This kinda always happens. When I get the full mentality of quitting dating, a random girl shows up and it's usually a relationship of some sort; but there is always a catch. With one, she was bi just going through a phase. Another, she was long distance. Another lied too much and also was long distance. And all the relationships seem to form around November-December.

This woman is 18 going to 19. And was worried that I wouldn't consider her age. I didn't mine. She seems mature enough. We exchange pictures. She says that she isn't into looks really anyway. She looks very cute. Never seen much of a body shot but she looks like one of them petites. 5'5" and a blonde. If you ever watched Disney--the movie Cow Belles with Aly and A.J. Machalka. She almost looks just like A.J. and a bit of like Aly (they almost look kinda alike anyways).

I put some cold reality in that post. And she doesn't seem like the type to date a guy like me--but she says that she is still interested. The only thing is that it seems like we are doing the emailing thing too much. I told her we should text but she sorta dodged the subject. She seems real cool but the communication isn't what I'd like it to be. But after all she is only 19 and probably busy so I don't fret. She EMs me when she can but I feel like there's more we can communicate about.

But how I feel about it all is damned if I date her or damned if I don't. She's really the only woman I am "talking to" right now. Part of me does hope it forms out positively though...

The only way to truly find out is to meet her in person.

I'm trying to initiate that. By at least giving her my phone number but she hasn't replied. She hasn't replied since yesterday I think. Or earlier. But the last email I gave her has my number in it. So either way. I'm not sending her "good morning" and "how was your day" messages anymore.

Idk. Hate to sound pessimistic, but I kinda figured somehow it wouldn't work. I've been doing this dating thing long enough to where if a man/woman are interested in you, they'd take some lengths to show it at least.

I wouldn't blame you for taking a chance on someone, but all the same, it's probably better to just pull out of the online game if you'd rather have a stable person in the long run. I'd imagine it's more fun to window shop and satisfy personal curiosity than actually settle on someone.

If I would've went with her I wouldn't have felt like I settled but you have a point about the online game. I've deleted my account ages ago actually. This was from Craigslist. And if you don't delete your ae it seems to float there until they take it out or something. Lol

But still haven't heard from her so I guess it is what it is. I would actually rather meet women in person than online anyways now.

Calling it quits man. She's totally ignoring me out there. Sent her my number again got no reply. But once I told her: okay I guess you found someone else or not interested. She replied back out of nowhere saying she's very sorry--her internet was off and she just got it back on. So I say alright cool I still wanna talk to her. Sent her another "good morning" and a few "how's it goings" and no reply. That's it. Not contacting her again--because she was very conversive in the beginning but now isn't. I'm actually the last person to play hard-to-get with naturally.

But yup she's the last girl I talk to except for one (who I never plan to see anyways). But for now, I'll just create and follow different paths myself.

Thanks for the replies people