How to get back together with an ex after 4/5 years?

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Hey guys, I haven't posted here in a LONG time, but after I've been struggling with this for such a long time now I was really hoping you folks might be able to help me out on this.

Me and my ex had a very short relationship that only lasted a month and ended 4 years ago, but nonetheless she definitely seemed to have strong feelings for me as she used to send me texts like "Haha, my mum keeps looking at me suspiciously whenever I go downstairs because I'm genuinely smiling. I miss feeling like this. You're an amazing person. I wish I met you earlier. Xxxxxx"

The problem is we had a very quick breakup and I just made it worse by flooding her with texts and just generally sounding desperate. However she is a particularly caring person and even though she hated my guts her and her friend phoned me up about 3 years ago and said that she'd be willing to start again as friends if I stop trying to contact her until she's ready, which she said was about a year, and also kept myself safe (as I have a history of self harm and suicide attempts). Obviously I can't read minds so there's definitely a chance of me being wrong on this but my impression was that she was keen to keep this promise and was genuinely willing to be friends again after said time. She also unblocked me on Facebook after the conversation.

After the year I sent her a friend request, and sent a message asking how she's been and if she was still up to being friends again, or something along those lines if I can remember correctly. Sadly, though, she responded by blocking me. Whether this was because she didn't want to follow through with her promise, or just because she wasn't ready yet I don't know.

So it's been another two years and now that her mum has seemed to change her mind about me I was thinking about coming over to her's next year say and having a chat with her about the whole thing, if she'd allow it, or if not just leaving a letter with her or something. I'm just really unsure how to go about it, and how I could pick up and react to whether she is ready/when she will be ready/if she will ever be ready and find these answers... I'd just in the dark about the whole thing really. Any ideas? :S

She sounded genuine when she said it. And she's honestly not the kind of person that lies to get what they want. She is a very honest person when I knew her, and he didn't seem any different at the time of the phone call.

maybe shes already seeing someone else then but imo she wants no contact from you

I think you should say away.