I've thought a lot about a failure I had in the dating game.
It seems like the main procedure was neurodiverse. I don't think I need to explain it fully, it was just kind of slow and both parties seemed rather shy. The main problem was that I was subjected to unexpected clues with long intervals between, and I really never got them until hours later. Thinking about this I added this issue to Aspie Quiz: Do you realize hours later that somebody that you have a romantic interest for actually showed interest for you, and then feel bad about the missed opportunity to connect?. Sure enough, this is highly relevant for neurodiversity, and it seems to correlate to neurodiverse attachments. Best of all, it is not at all related to approach avoidance or having bad timing in general.
Now if neurodiverse people are like that (I sure am), why would somebody neurodiverse (I'm sure this girl was mostly neurodiverse) use things that are typically part of the neurotypical dating game? She seemed to think that girls should signal interest in cryptic ways and never the same way more than once, which meant I always missed it. Perhaps she had been told that girls should hide their interest and not be to obvious. Yet, she was very obvious in other ways, yet that didn't make any difference as it was so unexpected.
Is it common for Aspies to buy these neurotypical preferences that works so badly for neurodiverse people?
16 Jun 2014, 3:36 pm
