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RightGalaxy
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24 Jul 2014, 9:18 am

A lot of times NT's enter into relationships with people on the spectrum and they know nothing about AS people. After a while, they get frustrated and start to actually HATE them. They abuse them and play head games with them out of their frustration. Similar to cursing and punching a guest who can't eat the sugary cake they baked because the guest is a diabetic. The NT might like a lot of things about the aspie like loyalty and truthfulness but hates that he/she can't handle social situations well which embarrasses them. It turns into a love/hate relationship. The NT wants you, they cling to you, then they ABUSE you, curse you, and throw you out. An aspie will feel like they're living with a person who has Border-line personality. The NT may even break it off only to enter the fierce dating game once more to get their just desserts from another NT... because they're just simply not NT "enough". Then they're back with you. It's a vicious cycle better to be avoided. Don't look for a relationship just because you think you're supposed to. This kind of scenario will only take you back to your school days when you tried to make friends because you thought you were "supposed" to. I'm sure many of you remember what happened back then - rejection. If you want company, join a common interest group. You'll keep busy without expectation. Expectation is the root of all disappointment.



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24 Jul 2014, 9:48 am

That vicious cycle seems a lot like why my parents divorced. I don't love anyone without trying to show them an optimistic view of our lives, so I can look back on my childhood acknowledging mistakes like those. My girlfriend is worth loving no matter her mood, some relationships face little or no issue transcending NT needs. Women still make more sense than work to me!


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