Help - being asked out

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So... good news? I guess? lol

I have a co-worker who keeps asking me out on dates. He's actually really cute and sweet, and I did go out with him a couple of times, but I'm a little reluctant because I gotta worry about school and finding a different job with a shorter commute.

He's also a little bit older than me, but not too significant to mean anything to me. (I mean my parents are separated by 11 years, it doesn't really bother me.)

I also don't have very reliable transportation ATM because my sister is going to school right now too and my parents also drive to work every day, so I'm stuck having to take public transportation most of the time.

Advice... maybe?

If you like him, then keep going out with him. How much older is he?

Sounds like a cool guy--why not?

Does he know about your art, and about your Asperger's?

I'd show him the art--it's very good. The Asperger's: that's a matter which should be deferred until you know him better.

Alright, I'll keep going out with him I guess.

He's 25. He has his own flat in downtown Portland, though, and he supports himself.

The guy supports himself--that's not that common in 25 year olds these days

If you like him, then I guess you could go out with him as long as it doesn't make you uncomfortable to do so.

I'm jealous. I wish a guy would ask me out one time. I've never been asked in in real life.

Anyway: if you like him, why don't you do it? I fail to see the problem. Go one the date with him, and see what it brings about. Who knows...
25 and 18 is OK in my eyes.

Wow! Oh my god! That's amazing. The Dragons look fantastic. Am going to check more tonight. Love your style! Wish I could draw like that! Be proud of yourself girl!

You are cute, sweet and talented Makayla. 25 years old and 18 years old isn't that big an age difference either, and if you do hit it off then that difference will be less and less noticeable as you grow old together. I'd love it if someone as talented as you were to draw some anime versions of The Bicycling Guitarist, maybe even make a story up involving The Evil Twin. Dunno when or if or how much I could pay you, but could probably work something out.

Wow! Good I asked about it!

My only advice is that, given this guy is in his mid-twenties, you are probably not the first girl to think he's sweet and cute, so it's likely he's more experienced than you (although lots of 25 year old guys are less experienced than the typical 18-year old female!), so...
the reason I point this out is that things may tend to happen faster with him than with a guy your own age. Therefore, I suggest you decide soon how you feel about various matters and what you will do if/when certain situations arise.

I hope that makes some sort of sense.

Also keep in mind at all times to watch out for signs that he may be just be wanting to have you as an interim sex friend. I know its harsh but it is not uncommon. If he starts suggesting verbally or nonverbally of his sexual interest in you within like the first month or two of dating you'll know his intentions. Guys that do this play the numbers game and ask out several girls out and see which one provides.

Hopefully he really is interested in you and it all goes well. Be smart about it and be alert in case it is not

One thing I noticed: Makayla could take care of herself