Can kissing be purely sexual?

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Is it common to enjoy kissing in a purely physical, sexual way, even when there is no emotional connection whatsoever?

Yeah, this is another "clueless aspie" kind of question... I'm asking this, because it doesn't work that way for me. I see kissing as a way of expressing affection - kind of like a higher level of hugging, if you will. This isn't some kind of an ethical stance or anything. It's just that when I see a hot woman I don't know I simply don't feel the urge to kiss her. Have sex with her? Sure. Kiss her? "Hmm, I suppose I could, but I don't see much of a point." Am I highly unusual in this?

Because of this, for a long time I didn't get why people seem to enjoy making out with complete strangers in bars or night-clubs or whatever. I kind of just assumed it was merely a prelude to potentially having sex with them - that part I understand! Or maybe they get to at least feel up the other person while they're kissing - I get that, too. But now it occurs to me that maybe most people enjoy the kissing in its own right.

Yes.

I've had a couple of those--and I realized that it wasn't enough for me. I couldn't "perform" under these auspices.

I have to have some emotional involvement in the woman in order for me to perform well.

It can, but I couldn't do it.

Very much so. In fact, I enjoyed the "purely sexual" kisses with strangers in nightclubs a lot more than with my past girlfriends. It's the alcohol, the fun fast-paced atmosphere, the frenzied passion combined with youthful clumsiness (bumping noses and stuff), that made those kisses so much fun! It felt like she was putting vast amounts of sexual energy into it, and I was doing the same in return. Doubly so if there was more than making out going on; that is, neck kissing, and hands wandering all over, on "safe" body parts and otherwise. We were like two hikers in the desert who just stumbled upon an open fire hydrant. These experiences were fairly common for me when I was in my early 20's, but trailed off as I got older. The most recent one was past summer, in an outdoor nightclub on a river.

When I kissed my past girlfriends, it was more like a given, something that's supposed to happen in relationships. It still felt good, but there was none of that frenzied passion that I feel when I make out with a stranger. Just a kiss.

Yes and no usually it is a simple form of affection but can also be a test whether the partner is compatible with you or not if it is then it can lead to sexuality!

Never done porn or had a few one night stands with somebody who you never want to see again, have you?

Yes, it can be.

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Been there, done that.......Peter doesn't rise to the occasion unless he feels something for the lady.

I personally don't find kissing sexually appealing at all, only ever romantically. I also feel sexual attraction and romantic attraction as two entirely different feelings, in fact, I'm never usually sexually attracted to people I'm romantically attracted to and vice versa... although I definitely think I'm in the minority in that regard.

From I hear, kissing CAN be purely sexual. To me, it's neither sexual nor emotional--I HATE kissing because it gets wetness on my face and there's a face near my face and it just causes all kinds of painful sensory overload. But other people can enjoy it for a lot of reasons.

Now about that porn FMX....