Finding people you know on a dating site

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I live in a small city so I've seen two people on okcupid that I know in real life kind of well. Right now there's this guy who I was kind of friends with for a bit in high school. I looked at his profile once and now he's been on both of my profiles. I have a "real and proper profile" and a troll profile. I messaged him from the troll profile for fun.

I was just sorta talking about this with one of my friends on the phone tonight.

I told him how I've seen some guys from my high school on some gay dating sites, as well as had a couple other ones email me from some ads I had posted for fun just to see what kind of responses I got. As far as I can tell, all of them are closeted bi/gay guys. It's kinda funny.

I emailed back and forth with one of them a few times but there's nothing on my email account to identify me by, so he never knew who he was emailing. Another emailed me and I responded from the same anonymous email account but never got a reply back. Another messaged me on another site and since I don't have anything identifying there he didn't know who he was messaging, which I found funny... because his pic on that site is mostly camouflaged, but I recognize him.

I have no interest in any of them, but it's still fun (and funny) to message back and forth with them every now and again.

Sounds like fun. On okcupid I learned that someone I knew from high school is bi. She seemed pretty conservative and christian so I was surprised. The people who found me are probably surprised that I'm gay. I'm still mostly closeted, mainly because I don't have any reason to be out.

It is kinda fun. The one I emailed back and forth with I've emailed back and forth with a few times over the last couple years or so lol and one time I asked him if he went to school at _____ and he replied right away and said he had just moved here from out of Province and blah blah blah - lol total bs.

Another high school guy anecdote for ya that I shared with my friend on the phone tonight: I recently went on a river rafting trip with a bunch of guys I went to high school with. One of them married some girl a few years ago and everyone knew the relationship wouldn't last - and it didn't. But we just thought it was because she was a heinous b***h that treated him poorly. Anyways, he was on this river rafting trip... with his boyfriend. Everyone was completely cool with it and it really did make the trip a little better. I've since realized all of those guys and their wives/gf's etc are all completely ok with gay people. Well, I knew some of them were as one of my friend's wife's brother is gay and she's a teacher and headed up a gay/straight club at her school. But yeah, it was pretty cool having that out couple there and everyone being totally cool with everyone else. It was also cool for them, too, because even though they've been together for over a year the guy I know is still getting used to the whole out concept, so it was good for them to spend the day around such accepting people.

Same goes for other people in my life, so far anyone who knows I'm gay doesn't care.. The only ones I know that would care I don't plan on telling, and other than that I've only had one negative reaction to it from a homophobe I used to work with.

It's been my experience that there are gay people from all walks of life, including uber religious Christians.

I've only been out to people over the last couple years. Still not out to everyone I know, but am much more comfortably out than ever - annnnnnd.. it's better. It's like others have described on youtube etc how you no longer have to make a concentrated effort to conceal it.. and you realize other people don't really care, and if they do then whatever you probably don't need them in your life anyways. The more comfortably out I am with others the more relaxed I am and life gets. I won't be single forever, so when that changes and there's a steady boyfriend in my life, well, whoever I'm not out to will figure it out right quick & I'm ok with that.

I was just browsing with no gender and sex filters and I found out this guys I went to high school with is gay. I didn't really know him, but I've seen him walking in the hallway.

Many years ago: my married boss!!


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Now that's awkward. Useful, but hopefully you'd never have to use that info against him/her. Also still awkward.

err... congratulations?

I see people I know on them all the time. In the end I just deleted every dating profile I had, as tbh I find dating sites useless. I've seen people from school, people I worked with, etc etc, idiots from forums. It got annoying after a while having them tell me who I am.

This is exactly why I don't have pictures up. If I'm talking to someone and they insist on being assured that I'm not a monster, they get a look at my Facebook.

I'm from a small town too, and I've spotted several people I know.

Nope. Be quiet!

So far I have resisted the urge to create a F4M alt-profile just so I can troll any male acquaintances that I might find on there. I shouldn't even be thinking about it.

ugh ugh ugh I found my tenant there once and oh god. Things I couldn't unsee. I was like, aw man, in my apartment....

I live in a big town, but I've seen people I know from time to time. Sometimes I give a little "Hey, I know you," otherwise I pretend I didn't see them =) Most of the time it's someone who probably doesn't know who I am.

I've seen a couple of males that I know, but I'm not interested in guys, so I don't usually notice them. They just pop up in my "similar to" on my own profile, etc.