my mother doesnt' want me to date an asperger

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hi guys, i have a problem and i don't know what to do or who to tell... i've started dating a mild asperger 4 months ago, he's really sweet and i would had never noticed he has asperger unless he told me, he's a bit shy in large groups and he stresses a bit much for somethings, but no big deal (as far as i know ) actually, most of her friends and family dont' even know he has asperger.

the problem is that, when i introduced him to my parents, he told them he has asperger,not giving much importance to it, but now they have panicked, specially my mother, telling me that i should not date him, that i'm making a huge mistake, that the simptom is uncurable, that if i marry someone like that i would have to take care of him all my live and that our sons would provably have it too (yes, all this only after 4 moths of dating) anyway, all kind of stuff like that.

I've tried talking with her, explaining that it's not that big of a problem but it's useless... he tells me that i'm not a doctor and what do i know, and she doesn't even know him... just for a few hours.

i don't know what kind of thing had she read on the internet or if she's making all of it by her own but it's really tearing me apart,,, he's the sweetest, caring and smart boyfriend i've ever had and i don't want to breakup for something like that...

what could i do?

PD: sorry my english, it's not my first lenguage

You cannot change your boyfriend's brain so the only thing you can work on is changing your parent's attitude. I don't know how old you are or your cultural background but you have to live your life not your parent's.

Can you talk about other things and ask him to do the same? Your mother has panicked and fixated on this and I doubt can talk about rationally right now. He must have positive qualities. Talk about them if you can.

Don't listen to your mother. Date him if you want to and if you have any questions about his Asperger's, ask us here.

What about an Asshotdog?

I adore men with aspergers. Especially the shy ones... They're such sweethearts

Tell her that everyone with aspergers are different. Explain to her how your boyfriends aspergers is.

Ops mother must be an abilist. I bet she would change her mind though if the aspie was rich and makes 6 figures a year and has a Ferrari or something of that nature. It kind of reminds me of this! [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=92U6OnVZG3U[/youtube]

1) You're dating him, not your mother. It's not really her decision. It would be different if the guy was rude, mean, or otherwise a jerk whether he had AS or not and she advised you to leave him. But it sounds like he's a nice guy and your mother is the one with the problem. I'd politely tell her to mind her own business about it as she's not the one dating him, you are, and it's your choice. I'd tell her I appreciate her concern and that if he ever behaved in such a way that you didn't want to be with him, you'd stop dating him on your own accord.

2) Your mother is wrong in assuming it's incurable. Symptoms are entirely treatable. I know because I've done it.

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